mes we wave a banner that says, “If you loved me you would know.” Every time you expect a certain reaction or behavior from someone you are constructing a silent contract. Pick 3 of the closest people to you and examine your relationships. Eliminate all silent contracts you have wiExpectations, Part 2

Does how you behave depend on how others behave? Are you reactive?

Answer the following questions?

1. Is “should” part of your vocabulary or your criteria in decision making?
2. Do you do things for others because you have to?
3. Can somebody else’s bad mood bring you down?
4. Do you seek approval from others before moving forward?
5. When someone yells at you , do you automatically yell back?

If you answered yes to any of those questions, you are reactive. The more numerous the yeses, the more frequently reactive behavior occurs, which means the more expectations you have placed upon yourself and others. Most people believe they are making choices when they are really reacting. Who we are is not defined by others, therefore our actions must be made from of our own wisdom not from reacting to each other.

“Without clear communication and an authentic commitment to personal accountability, no one has a chance.”

When we expect something from someone else but never express that expectation, you are asking the other person to be a mind reader. Many times we wave a banner that says, “If you loved me you would know.” Every time you expect a certain reaction or behavior from someone you are constructing a silent contract. Pick 3 of the closest people to you and examine your relationships. Eliminate all silent contracts you have wit

omebody else’s bad mood bring you down?
4. Do you seek approval from others before moving forward?
5. When someone yells at you , do you automatically yell back?

If you answered yes to any of those questions, you are reactive. The more numerous the yeses, the more frequently reactive behavior occurs, which means the more expectations you have placed upon yourself and others. Most people believe they are making choices when they are really reacting. Who we are is not defined by others, therefore our actions must be made from of our own wisdom not from reacting to each other.

“Without clear communication and an authentic commitment to personal accountability, no one has a chance.”

When we expect something from someone else but never express that expectation, you are asking the other person to be a mind reader. Many times we wave a banner that says, “If you loved me you would know.” Every time you expect a certain reaction or behavior from someone you are constructing a silent contract. Pick 3 of the closest people to you and examine your relationships. Eliminate all silent contracts you have wi

uently reactive behavior occurs, which means the more expectations you have placed upon yourself and others. Most people believe they are making choices when they are really reacting. Who we are is not defined by others, therefore our actions must be made from of our own wisdom not from reacting to each other.

“Without clear communication and an authentic commitment to personal accountability, no one has a chance.”

When we expect something from someone else but never express that expectation, you are asking the other person to be a mind reader. Many times we wave a banner that says, “If you loved me you would know.” Every time you expect a certain reaction or behavior from someone you are constructing a silent contract. Pick 3 of the closest people to you and examine your relationships. Eliminate all silent contracts you have wi

rom reacting to each other.

“Without clear communication and an authentic commitment to personal accountability, no one has a chance.”

When we expect something from someone else but never express that expectation, you are asking the other person to be a mind reader. Many times we wave a banner that says, “If you loved me you would know.” Every time you expect a certain reaction or behavior from someone you are constructing a silent contract. Pick 3 of the closest people to you and examine your relationships. Eliminate all silent contracts you have wi

mes we wave a banner that says, “If you loved me you would know.” Every time you expect a certain reaction or behavior from someone you are constructing a silent contract. Pick 3 of the closest people to you and examine your relationships. Eliminate all silent contracts you have with these people and begin to interact with them based on what you both have agreed upon. You will be amazed at the positive improvement. If you are an expert at silent contracts, seek the support of a coach to help you remove the expectations you secretly have of others (and probably yourself!) and you will find you spend less time being disappointed and more time enjoying your life!

Make it year to remember! 2007 is just around the corner, what are your hopes and dreams for next year?

January is the perfect time to hire a life coach. Search the web, ask your friends or take a few coaches for a test drive by arranging a free session. Most of us offer free, no strings coaching sessions and it is the only way to ensure a good fit between coach and client. We all need support and yours is just a phone call away. Look forward 6 months…. If nothing changes in your life will you be thrilled with the results? If you look forward and find yourself wishing, wanting more……take action and make it happen! You will be amazed at how much can change in a few months. You know those changes you have longed to make, you c