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I Advice - Sacred Love - Compassion is Understanding and Understanding is Wisdom
Communication failures are common in industry and government. In many cases the poor communication stems from a lack of knowledge by managers, supervisors and team leaders in how communication works in the human brain. A result of this poor understanding is lower levels of productivity than is otherwise possible.Communication models suggest that problems in communication are as much about listening as they are about speaking. It is not only the receiver who needs to listen well, but also the speaker.A common theme amongst modern communication models is that people filter, interpret, attach meaning and significance to what they hear based on their thinking styles, their life experiences, their relationship with the speaker and their emotions at the time of hearing the communication. Their response is based on this complex series of mental interactions which may only take a few seconds.Most of us have experienced the feeling that a speaker we listened to was from another planet. For example, whilst waiting for the big picture to be painted all we heard was detail, detail, detail. Or all we heard was high level generalities with no detail as we wait patiently to relate what they are saying to what we actually do, day to day. In either case we are probably experiencing a filtering and possibly a rejection of the messages which are sent that do not fit our thinking style, our previous experiences or our current state of emotion.We each have different dominance of one or more of four thinking styles which can be described in very short form as liking to think about things in terms of facts, the whole pictu
D replied “I know from what you told me before, the Nature destroys anything that does not fulfill its purpose.”
“So why would nature destroy your relationship?”
D had tears in his eyes “To get me back on purpose?”
I asked “And what is that?”
D replied “I don’t know. I had a dream when we met, but really all I wanted was a family. I think my dream was BS, all I wanted was a home and a baby and a wife.”
I asked “And was that what she thought when she agreed to marry you?”
He replied “No, she wanted a man just like her Dad, a wealthy successful immigrant who worked night and day to make a fortune. She wanted an ambitious man and I think I became t
If you know what poison ivy is then you would know how dreadful it would be to be in contact with this nuisance of a plant. If you were to actually come in contact with the poison ivy and you did not know that you actually did, you would probably not find out until twenty four to forty eight hours after you came in contact with it. This is because that’s when the first set of symptoms would usually begin to start showing up. But don’t worry because there are ways to lessen the effects and cure the poison ivy.If you do happen to realize that you came into contact with poison ivy, the first thing you should do is immediately wash off the area of skin with soap and water, certain medical soaps would be preferred for better relief but remember that time is an important factor here. Taking a cold shower can relieve irritation. Some over the counter drugs such as calamine lotions can be used to relieve the itching. Adequate medical advice is also needed to help in the recovery process. You should be sure to thoroughly wash all clothing, blankets and car seats that may have been in contact with your skin or with the poison ivy directly, as you may re-infect yourself by touching things that have been contaminated with poison ivy.You should try not to scratch too often because scratching results in marks left behind and scars and most importantly, the more often you scratch the more often you will get the urge to scratch. Some over the counter pain killers can be used to relieve the fever, nausea and discomfort that comes along with the poison ivy rash. Contrary to common folklore rubbing poison ivy on your skin will not m
Understanding your lover, frees you to build more love with them. Trying to change them, destroys it. Sometimes our expectations are false, and that makes it impossible to be happy. If our expectations are real, then usually we find that people behave according to certain patterns, and those patterns belong to their constitution. Many quarrels occur between lovers because we fail to understand each others differences. Tolerance is important in this. What makes tolerance all the more easy is the skill of predicting exactly how a certain “type” of person will act and react.
What is fascinating is that we fall in love with what is unique about a person, and then spend the rest of the time in relationship trying to change them to be someone else. It’s because what makes them unique is also what causes all their problems.
The ancients knew that to define a person by what they think, was to play into the hands of the human Ego, so they focused their understanding of human character on the different constitution of each body type. The result is Yoga and its sister science of health, Ayurveda.
D came to me about his relationship. “I have done everything she asked, I gave up golf, I look after the kids, I give her back rubs, I don’t watch footy, I am now a vegetarian, I listen to her spiritual music. Everything she asked, I did. I even closed my office early every day to pick up our daughter from school so my wife could work late in her own business. I did everything, and last week she left me because my income is lousy. She told me that she couldn’t hope to meet a more giving man, but she needed more”.
I asked D a question based on the fifth law of nature, “What do you think she was attracted to when you first met her, why did she marry you in the first place?”
D replied, “She wanted children, I wanted children. She wanted to build wealth, I wanted to build wealth. She wanted me to succeed in my clinic, I wanted her to succeed in her clinic. I guess you could say we had dreams to share and that’s what we loved about each other, we shared dreams and wanted to help each other fulfill them.”
Then I asked “So why did she leave?”
D replied, “Well my dreams didn’t happen, my business was struggling all the time, but that had a lot to do with the fact that she needed help and I gave up 3 hours a day in my clinic to help her.”
“So what you are saying, D, is that she lost faith in your dreams”
D replied “Yes, I guess so. But her success in her business was because I gave up on some of mine. Isn’t that what relationships are about, give and take?”
“I don’t know D, but why did she leave?”
“I told you, because she lost faith in my dreams. I did everything to please her, and still she wasn’t happy.”
I returned to the laws of Nature. “D. there’s a law, and it is universal, It says ‘Nobody can do to you more than you do to yourself’. So if your wife lost heart toward your dream, then that can only tell me that you did too.” D replied “Yes, but I wanted the relationship to work.”
I shared more “Did you know that when one person loses their dream, their vision for the future, they always turn their focus in on the relationship and begin to make the relationship the purpose of their life? Can you imagine a tree, whose purpose is to grow skyward, but it changes its mind and starts making its purpose helping another tree to grow. What do you think would happen?”
D replied “I know from what you told me before, the Nature destroys anything that does not fulfill its purpose.”
“So why would nature destroy your relationship?”
D had tears in his eyes “To get me back on purpose?”
I asked “And what is that?”
D replied “I don’t know. I had a dream when we met, but really all I wanted was a family. I think my dream was BS, all I wanted was a home and a baby and a wife.”
I asked “And was that what she thought when she agreed to marry you?”
He replied “No, she wanted a man just like her Dad, a wealthy successful immigrant who worked night and day to make a fortune. She wanted an ambitious man and I think I became th
What is the primary difference between a venture capital business plan and a small business or other business plan? The answer is typically risk. Venture capital business plans have much more risk than other plans, and as a result, the potential rewards from success are much higher.When preparing a plan for venture capitalists, it is critical to try to mitigate the risks inherent in the venture. To mitigate the risks, the plan should stress areas in which the venture excels. This will give the investors validation that their chance of success is highest. To accomplish this, the plan must, among others, stress the qualifications of the management team, prove that the size of opportunity is formidable, show competitive advantage, and detail the operations plan that will allow the venture to effectively and efficiently go "from here to there."When venture capitalists read a business plan, they constantly ask “what if.” By giving them the confidence that the team, the opportunity, and the strategy are all sound, answering the "what if" questions positively becomes easier. This in turn pushes them to the next step which is typically to meet with the management team and assess whether it is the right team to execute the venture.When developing a venture capital business plan it is also critical that the plan be properly edited. Most venture capitalists have advanced degrees and have spent many, many years in school. As a result, they naturally spot typos and other inconsistencies, which cast a negative light on the venture. Likewise, since venture capitalists must review so many plans per week, making them visual
What is fascinating is that we fall in love with what is unique about a person, and then spend the rest of the time in relationship trying to change them to be someone else. It’s because what makes them unique is also what causes all their problems.
The ancients knew that to define a person by what they think, was to play into the hands of the human Ego, so they focused their understanding of human character on the different constitution of each body type. The result is Yoga and its sister science of health, Ayurveda.
D came to me about his relationship. “I have done everything she asked, I gave up golf, I look after the kids, I give her back rubs, I don’t watch footy, I am now a vegetarian, I listen to her spiritual music. Everything she asked, I did. I even closed my office early every day to pick up our daughter from school so my wife could work late in her own business. I did everything, and last week she left me because my income is lousy. She told me that she couldn’t hope to meet a more giving man, but she needed more”.
I asked D a question based on the fifth law of nature, “What do you think she was attracted to when you first met her, why did she marry you in the first place?”
D replied, “She wanted children, I wanted children. She wanted to build wealth, I wanted to build wealth. She wanted me to succeed in my clinic, I wanted her to succeed in her clinic. I guess you could say we had dreams to share and that’s what we loved about each other, we shared dreams and wanted to help each other fulfill them.”
Then I asked “So why did she leave?”
D replied, “Well my dreams didn’t happen, my business was struggling all the time, but that had a lot to do with the fact that she needed help and I gave up 3 hours a day in my clinic to help her.”
“So what you are saying, D, is that she lost faith in your dreams”
D replied “Yes, I guess so. But her success in her business was because I gave up on some of mine. Isn’t that what relationships are about, give and take?”
“I don’t know D, but why did she leave?”
“I told you, because she lost faith in my dreams. I did everything to please her, and still she wasn’t happy.”
I returned to the laws of Nature. “D. there’s a law, and it is universal, It says ‘Nobody can do to you more than you do to yourself’. So if your wife lost heart toward your dream, then that can only tell me that you did too.” D replied “Yes, but I wanted the relationship to work.”
I shared more “Did you know that when one person loses their dream, their vision for the future, they always turn their focus in on the relationship and begin to make the relationship the purpose of their life? Can you imagine a tree, whose purpose is to grow skyward, but it changes its mind and starts making its purpose helping another tree to grow. What do you think would happen?”
D replied “I know from what you told me before, the Nature destroys anything that does not fulfill its purpose.”
“So why would nature destroy your relationship?”
D had tears in his eyes “To get me back on purpose?”
I asked “And what is that?”
D replied “I don’t know. I had a dream when we met, but really all I wanted was a family. I think my dream was BS, all I wanted was a home and a baby and a wife.”
I asked “And was that what she thought when she agreed to marry you?”
He replied “No, she wanted a man just like her Dad, a wealthy successful immigrant who worked night and day to make a fortune. She wanted an ambitious man and I think I became t
I know! You got an incredible product and you're about to lauch it. But there is one problem: because the product is so new, you don't have testimonials from anyone. Remember: what other people say about your product worths a zillion times more than you could ever say! This article will show you how do it and how to convince everyone about the quality of your business. One option is to have people testing the product: get some friends or colleagues and tell them about your new goal, give them a price discount. This will gain some profits for the beggining. Another technique is to give the product for free to a certain number of people in exchange for testimonials. Quickest method! Tell them about the price, and ask opinions. Remember: if your product has reseller rights, disable them if you share the product for free. Start a seminar or a conference and invite different individuals that might be interested about your product. Make it interactive, test it live, ask them to give you a hand on testing and revealing it's functionality. After you're done, ask for feedback. There are lots of fellows out there which will love to have your product. A small discount always works! Your first clients will guarantee the best testimonials. The direct approach is the best, writing mails doesn't work as well as calling or meeting live with your "target". Fact #1: if you get testimonials from important people you dramaticaly increase your credibility. If you trust in what you do, why not letting other people
I asked D a question based on the fifth law of nature, “What do you think she was attracted to when you first met her, why did she marry you in the first place?”
D replied, “She wanted children, I wanted children. She wanted to build wealth, I wanted to build wealth. She wanted me to succeed in my clinic, I wanted her to succeed in her clinic. I guess you could say we had dreams to share and that’s what we loved about each other, we shared dreams and wanted to help each other fulfill them.”
Then I asked “So why did she leave?”
D replied, “Well my dreams didn’t happen, my business was struggling all the time, but that had a lot to do with the fact that she needed help and I gave up 3 hours a day in my clinic to help her.”
“So what you are saying, D, is that she lost faith in your dreams”
D replied “Yes, I guess so. But her success in her business was because I gave up on some of mine. Isn’t that what relationships are about, give and take?”
“I don’t know D, but why did she leave?”
“I told you, because she lost faith in my dreams. I did everything to please her, and still she wasn’t happy.”
I returned to the laws of Nature. “D. there’s a law, and it is universal, It says ‘Nobody can do to you more than you do to yourself’. So if your wife lost heart toward your dream, then that can only tell me that you did too.” D replied “Yes, but I wanted the relationship to work.”
I shared more “Did you know that when one person loses their dream, their vision for the future, they always turn their focus in on the relationship and begin to make the relationship the purpose of their life? Can you imagine a tree, whose purpose is to grow skyward, but it changes its mind and starts making its purpose helping another tree to grow. What do you think would happen?”
D replied “I know from what you told me before, the Nature destroys anything that does not fulfill its purpose.”
“So why would nature destroy your relationship?”
D had tears in his eyes “To get me back on purpose?”
I asked “And what is that?”
D replied “I don’t know. I had a dream when we met, but really all I wanted was a family. I think my dream was BS, all I wanted was a home and a baby and a wife.”
I asked “And was that what she thought when she agreed to marry you?”
He replied “No, she wanted a man just like her Dad, a wealthy successful immigrant who worked night and day to make a fortune. She wanted an ambitious man and I think I became t
So, a little light bulb inside you head has lit up and you are struck with the idea that you invented something. You are not sure yet how practical your idea is at this time, but something tells you that this might be the Big break you were looking for. What you do next and how you approach your next steps is extremely important and will either lead you on to glory or will doom your undertaking. The steps that I will outline a little later might seem unnecessary; however I want to assure you that in the end you will be happy that you took my advice.Before we proceed with the discussion, I would like to offer a few words of wisdom. While working on your idea you will encounter people who will criticize your work and try to discourage you from forging ahead. Some of the criticism will be deserved and should be taken into account. If you see that a valid point is raised that you never thought of before - the better off you are. It gives you opportunity to pause and view your idea from another perspective (or angle). However, you may also encounter a so-called destructive criticism that is not based on any facts.When you learn how to separate these two, you will be better of. My advice to you -- Don't be afraid to question professionals, because most experts are one-track minded and oblivious to other things- Don't be afraid to challenge other people's ideas, stand by your principles and be firm- Don't be afraid to discover that your own idea is faulty. Pause, make corrections, re-analyze and move aheadWhen you are ready to market your idea, you will have to deal with large co
“So what you are saying, D, is that she lost faith in your dreams”
D replied “Yes, I guess so. But her success in her business was because I gave up on some of mine. Isn’t that what relationships are about, give and take?”
“I don’t know D, but why did she leave?”
“I told you, because she lost faith in my dreams. I did everything to please her, and still she wasn’t happy.”
I returned to the laws of Nature. “D. there’s a law, and it is universal, It says ‘Nobody can do to you more than you do to yourself’. So if your wife lost heart toward your dream, then that can only tell me that you did too.” D replied “Yes, but I wanted the relationship to work.”
I shared more “Did you know that when one person loses their dream, their vision for the future, they always turn their focus in on the relationship and begin to make the relationship the purpose of their life? Can you imagine a tree, whose purpose is to grow skyward, but it changes its mind and starts making its purpose helping another tree to grow. What do you think would happen?”
D replied “I know from what you told me before, the Nature destroys anything that does not fulfill its purpose.”
“So why would nature destroy your relationship?”
D had tears in his eyes “To get me back on purpose?”
I asked “And what is that?”
D replied “I don’t know. I had a dream when we met, but really all I wanted was a family. I think my dream was BS, all I wanted was a home and a baby and a wife.”
I asked “And was that what she thought when she agreed to marry you?”
He replied “No, she wanted a man just like her Dad, a wealthy successful immigrant who worked night and day to make a fortune. She wanted an ambitious man and I think I became t
There is a tremendous growth and change occurring in the sphere of business marketing across the world today. This is largely due to the unprecedented pace of change in technology, entrepreneurial tactics and an open attitude towards new theories and concepts in marketing itself.Direct Marketing is a subsection of marketing that focuses on planned recording, analysis and tracking of individual customers’ responses and transactions for the purpose of developing and prolonging mutually profitable customer relationships. Direct marketing can be aimed either at the individual consumer or on a business-to-business (B2B) level. This form of marketing attempts to send messages directly to the intended client by means of addressable media such as mail and email. In this way direct marketing differs from regular advertising in that it does not place its messages in the public market such as radio, billboards and magazines etc.A distinction has to be drawn between direct marketing and what is known as junk mail or spam. Whilst direct marketing is very often criticised for generating unwanted solicitations, spam and bulk mail drops are not true forms of direct marketing as recipients are not identified as prospects by any form of selective criteria. Direct marketing on the other hand is a form of advertising based on a very selective process by which potential clients are screened according to certain levels of eligibility in accordance with the product being promoted. Direct marketing makes use of addressable as well as non-addressable media. Addressable media entails such forms as email, telemarketing and short message ser
D replied “I know from what you told me before, the Nature destroys anything that does not fulfill its purpose.”
“So why would nature destroy your relationship?”
D had tears in his eyes “To get me back on purpose?”
I asked “And what is that?”
D replied “I don’t know. I had a dream when we met, but really all I wanted was a family. I think my dream was BS, all I wanted was a home and a baby and a wife.”
I asked “And was that what she thought when she agreed to marry you?”
He replied “No, she wanted a man just like her Dad, a wealthy successful immigrant who worked night and day to make a fortune. She wanted an ambitious man and I think I became that so she would love me and marry me. Now I think about it, I never really wanted all that stuff, but I went to the seminars she invited me to, and wrote these purpose statements about changing the world. All I really wanted, and ever dreamed about, was a simple home, a beautiful wife, a baby and an income from my teaching that could keep us comfortable. All the rest, I did for her.”
I said to him “So really, where you ended up is truth, and what she wanted was something different. And out of love for her, you tried to change, but who you are is who you are, right? So now we need to work out how you can have your dream, let her go to find hers, without feeling like something is missing, right?”
D replied, “I love my baby girl and my ex and I have agreed that I can look after her during the weeks while she works. You are right Chris, I do have what I want and if I value that, my dreams have all come true.”
Loving your partner for who they are - rather than for who they could be….
P came to me so frustrated. He said, “I am in this relationship with a beautiful woman, and I love her dearly. But, she has an ex-husband who won’t let go, a father who abuses her, a mother who keeps dropping in to stay, friends who are …… and ……”
I asked, “So what is it that you love about her?”
He replied, “I love everything about her, if only she could clear away all this stuff, we’d be so happy.”
I responded “But all this stuff is who she is.”
He got angry “No it’s not, it’s other people interfering.”
“No”, I suggested, “She is no victim, these are her choices and that’s who she is.”
P replied, “But she could be so much more.”
“Maybe”, I said, “But that is not who she is. She is who she is and you have no right to change that. Maybe you need to learn to love that in her, rather than project your ideals and expectations onto her. Maybe it’s you who need to grow your love to include those things, and you can’t.”
P replied “It’s too late, I already hurt her.”
I said in closing, “ It’s never too late to grow. Maybe the relationship is over, but you can still learn and grow, and therefore be thankful for her and her ex etc” This is the second law of nature – maximum growth occurs at the border of chaos and order.
Realistic expectations
The five elements are Ether, Air, Fire, Water and Earth. We all have these five elements within us and the proportions of each one, vary from person to person. Those proportions never change, from the moment of birth to death. No matter how much, or how little we eat or exercise, read or don’t read, the proportions never change. This is called you Elemental Constitution.
I will summarise these body types here for you, but in Innerwealth Book 4, this is explained in great detail and includes a self analysis for you to determine your Element.
• Earth People – Stocky
• Water People – Round and fleshy
• Fire people – Medium muscular
• Air People – Short thin
• Ether – Tall thin
EARTH
Do you know me? I am Earth. I love the home we build and the safety. I love the security and the trust we share. I am strong yet, fragile. Controlling, you might think, but I act to make your world safe, and in doing so, believe my eyes to be wisest. I wrap my arms around you because I love you, but really I want your tenderness, your fun and lightness. It is this that makes all my heaviness vanish and my lights come alive. I am the earth, reality is my level. I hold fast to all that is tangible and I am lost like a child in all that is not. I am bricks and mortar, I am money in the hand. I am security and trust. I know little of the vague ideals of romantic notions of God, but find peace in your a
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