treat themselves for illness, and therefore never get a chance to be well.

Another way to avoid the lasso, is to become spiritual. That means, for most unhappy people that they can now condemn the cowboy or cowgirl, and not run away. There should be peace and happiness in the world. So instead of really becoming happy, they try to coat the world in a layer of leather, instead of wearing sandals.

What are the parallels between what I do, and the lasso? Maybe the dentist is the better metaphor. You really never ever want to go to the dentist. Although I did meet one lady who had orgasms in the dentist chair. Most of us, go to the dentist, because we have an ache or need a check up. We tried brushing and using

When there is something wrong, we need to fix it.
Then, if our business is low in profit, we fix it.
If our leg is broken, or our bowel is blocked, we fix it.
If our car gets stolen, we fix that, we ring the police and insurance
Right?
If we have a back pain, we fix that too, we go to a back doctor.
OR even if our memory is lost, we go to a head doctor.
But sometimes we go to the doctor when there is no problem
Just not happy. And we call this, self help.

Now there are many definitions of “just not happy”. If you go to a person who specializes in ADD, you will have ADD. And if you are not happy, and go to a person who specializes in Depression, no doubt you have depression. And if you go to a seminar that teaches about consciousness, then your unhappiness is caused by unconsciousness. Or if you are unhappy, and go to a seminar on relationships, it’s your relationship that is to blame. And this is why, self help guru’s drive fancy cars. Bu the problem is not caused just by the guru doing “in my theme” diagnosis. You chose the seminar, or the book. Self help, does not necessarily mean self diagnosis.

Beware of any diagnosis. There are millions of experts in “psychology of happiness” who read one Deepak Chopra book, or two, and who will give you advice. Free. Which is what it is usually worth. Maybe you are normal. And the diagnosis just feeds your desire to “brand the problem”. Because usually with a diagnosis comes a solution. At a price. The price is not dollars. The price is time.

To brand a steer at a rodeo, the cowboy, or cowgirl lassoes the steer. Because the steer runs everywhere. It knows it’s going to be captured, and the brand is going to hurt So, it runs. Where does it run? It doesn’t care where it runs. It runs. It runs everywhere where the cowboy or cowgirl is not. The winner of the competition is the cowboy or cowgirl who brands the steer fastest. Because why waste time. Lets get it over with.

Now the steer thinks something is wrong with it. Right? It thinks “oh Shit” I must have food allergy, or hypertension, or mad cow or something, so it goes running around trying to find a solution. But really, there is nothing wrong. In fact if there was something wrong, the steer would be killed and eaten.

So this is the same when I work with people. They are sometimes unhappy. So they read self help books, and go to seminars and get some ideas that something is wrong with them. They learn to walk on hot coals, or break an arrow, or dance to drums. Like the steer, anything is better than the lasso. And even if they read a book they only say that the book was good, if it confirms what they think. So, self diagnosis, and self help is an oxymoron. Just look in a health food shop, many of the people are sick and stay that way because of only one thing, because they think they are sick. They often treat themselves for illness, and therefore never get a chance to be well.

Another way to avoid the lasso, is to become spiritual. That means, for most unhappy people that they can now condemn the cowboy or cowgirl, and not run away. There should be peace and happiness in the world. So instead of really becoming happy, they try to coat the world in a layer of leather, instead of wearing sandals.

What are the parallels between what I do, and the lasso? Maybe the dentist is the better metaphor. You really never ever want to go to the dentist. Although I did meet one lady who had orgasms in the dentist chair. Most of us, go to the dentist, because we have an ache or need a check up. We tried brushing and using f

And if you go to a seminar that teaches about consciousness, then your unhappiness is caused by unconsciousness. Or if you are unhappy, and go to a seminar on relationships, it’s your relationship that is to blame. And this is why, self help guru’s drive fancy cars. Bu the problem is not caused just by the guru doing “in my theme” diagnosis. You chose the seminar, or the book. Self help, does not necessarily mean self diagnosis.

Beware of any diagnosis. There are millions of experts in “psychology of happiness” who read one Deepak Chopra book, or two, and who will give you advice. Free. Which is what it is usually worth. Maybe you are normal. And the diagnosis just feeds your desire to “brand the problem”. Because usually with a diagnosis comes a solution. At a price. The price is not dollars. The price is time.

To brand a steer at a rodeo, the cowboy, or cowgirl lassoes the steer. Because the steer runs everywhere. It knows it’s going to be captured, and the brand is going to hurt So, it runs. Where does it run? It doesn’t care where it runs. It runs. It runs everywhere where the cowboy or cowgirl is not. The winner of the competition is the cowboy or cowgirl who brands the steer fastest. Because why waste time. Lets get it over with.

Now the steer thinks something is wrong with it. Right? It thinks “oh Shit” I must have food allergy, or hypertension, or mad cow or something, so it goes running around trying to find a solution. But really, there is nothing wrong. In fact if there was something wrong, the steer would be killed and eaten.

So this is the same when I work with people. They are sometimes unhappy. So they read self help books, and go to seminars and get some ideas that something is wrong with them. They learn to walk on hot coals, or break an arrow, or dance to drums. Like the steer, anything is better than the lasso. And even if they read a book they only say that the book was good, if it confirms what they think. So, self diagnosis, and self help is an oxymoron. Just look in a health food shop, many of the people are sick and stay that way because of only one thing, because they think they are sick. They often treat themselves for illness, and therefore never get a chance to be well.

Another way to avoid the lasso, is to become spiritual. That means, for most unhappy people that they can now condemn the cowboy or cowgirl, and not run away. There should be peace and happiness in the world. So instead of really becoming happy, they try to coat the world in a layer of leather, instead of wearing sandals.

What are the parallels between what I do, and the lasso? Maybe the dentist is the better metaphor. You really never ever want to go to the dentist. Although I did meet one lady who had orgasms in the dentist chair. Most of us, go to the dentist, because we have an ache or need a check up. We tried brushing and using

e usually with a diagnosis comes a solution. At a price. The price is not dollars. The price is time.

To brand a steer at a rodeo, the cowboy, or cowgirl lassoes the steer. Because the steer runs everywhere. It knows it’s going to be captured, and the brand is going to hurt So, it runs. Where does it run? It doesn’t care where it runs. It runs. It runs everywhere where the cowboy or cowgirl is not. The winner of the competition is the cowboy or cowgirl who brands the steer fastest. Because why waste time. Lets get it over with.

Now the steer thinks something is wrong with it. Right? It thinks “oh Shit” I must have food allergy, or hypertension, or mad cow or something, so it goes running around trying to find a solution. But really, there is nothing wrong. In fact if there was something wrong, the steer would be killed and eaten.

So this is the same when I work with people. They are sometimes unhappy. So they read self help books, and go to seminars and get some ideas that something is wrong with them. They learn to walk on hot coals, or break an arrow, or dance to drums. Like the steer, anything is better than the lasso. And even if they read a book they only say that the book was good, if it confirms what they think. So, self diagnosis, and self help is an oxymoron. Just look in a health food shop, many of the people are sick and stay that way because of only one thing, because they think they are sick. They often treat themselves for illness, and therefore never get a chance to be well.

Another way to avoid the lasso, is to become spiritual. That means, for most unhappy people that they can now condemn the cowboy or cowgirl, and not run away. There should be peace and happiness in the world. So instead of really becoming happy, they try to coat the world in a layer of leather, instead of wearing sandals.

What are the parallels between what I do, and the lasso? Maybe the dentist is the better metaphor. You really never ever want to go to the dentist. Although I did meet one lady who had orgasms in the dentist chair. Most of us, go to the dentist, because we have an ache or need a check up. We tried brushing and using

d a solution. But really, there is nothing wrong. In fact if there was something wrong, the steer would be killed and eaten.

So this is the same when I work with people. They are sometimes unhappy. So they read self help books, and go to seminars and get some ideas that something is wrong with them. They learn to walk on hot coals, or break an arrow, or dance to drums. Like the steer, anything is better than the lasso. And even if they read a book they only say that the book was good, if it confirms what they think. So, self diagnosis, and self help is an oxymoron. Just look in a health food shop, many of the people are sick and stay that way because of only one thing, because they think they are sick. They often treat themselves for illness, and therefore never get a chance to be well.

Another way to avoid the lasso, is to become spiritual. That means, for most unhappy people that they can now condemn the cowboy or cowgirl, and not run away. There should be peace and happiness in the world. So instead of really becoming happy, they try to coat the world in a layer of leather, instead of wearing sandals.

What are the parallels between what I do, and the lasso? Maybe the dentist is the better metaphor. You really never ever want to go to the dentist. Although I did meet one lady who had orgasms in the dentist chair. Most of us, go to the dentist, because we have an ache or need a check up. We tried brushing and using

treat themselves for illness, and therefore never get a chance to be well.

Another way to avoid the lasso, is to become spiritual. That means, for most unhappy people that they can now condemn the cowboy or cowgirl, and not run away. There should be peace and happiness in the world. So instead of really becoming happy, they try to coat the world in a layer of leather, instead of wearing sandals.

What are the parallels between what I do, and the lasso? Maybe the dentist is the better metaphor. You really never ever want to go to the dentist. Although I did meet one lady who had orgasms in the dentist chair. Most of us, go to the dentist, because we have an ache or need a check up. We tried brushing and using fluoride in the water, and cloves, and so many different pain killers, but in the end, really it’s simple. Go to the dentist.

But in the self help industry, well, is there ever a goodbye? If I think I have a problem (AKA the self help guru) then, I always have that need to fix it. And like the steer I will run around and around, reading books, and listening to people who are not happy, in order to get happy. I might even move to a far off country, run away from the challenges, find a new lover, do anything really. But the last thing we want to change, like the last resort of going to the dentist, is our problem.

Here are a few laws, a few simple laws. If you apply these laws, you might change the cause of your own, and others unhappiness. I hope they are of interest to you. Then, instead of trying to fix and make yourself better (which you can’t) you might start to smile and celebrate the beauty of life, by trekking up to the summit of a hill in Nepal, or kiss a baby instead of trying to fix what isn’t broken.

• Everybody spends 50% of their life energy, unhappy.
• All depression is caused by the addiction to happiness
• Blaming yourself or someone else for unhappiness perpetuates it.
• Being right, causes pain.
• For everything you fix, another thing to fix is born
• There is a beauty in challenge, as long as you see it so.
• No pleasure on earth will make you happy for long.
• The purpose of relationship is not happiness
• Everybody is a mirror of you. Like them or not.
• To be loved is to be supported and challenged
• To find happiness through challenge is creativity
• Creativity is beauty, growth and happiness.
• To fix a challenge is to birth sadness.
• Love and stress cannot coexist
• Stillness is love.
• Stillness is not static. It is loving kindness in action
• Humility and immunity are one in the same topic
• Looking for solutions, causes the problems.
• If your partner doesn’t challenge you, life will.
• Death is the symptom of lack of challenge.
• Peace is another word for dead.

To write this material is a non commercial exercise. Because two things drive the steer around the corral. Hope (for an escape) and fear (of the future). That is the basis of the self help industry. Create hope, eliminate fear. But these laws of nature say, “there will always be support and challenge so don’t hope for a life without some unhappiness, and there will always be another discomfort in the future.

But if we spend our life, with false expectation. Based on some movie, like “What the bleep” or we are running toward some mirage of self peace and spirituality which makes our love conditional on getting supported, then we will end up in a box, surrounded by toys, and people who agree with us, and unhappy. Why not have realistic expectations. The c