e but himself and is willing to accept the consequences of his actions, a man should have the right to make his own mistakes and learn from them.

Respect his opinions and let him be. And the next

This article could have been titled "Three Thoughtful Reasons NOT To Change A Person," because it applies to everyone, man or woman.

But since women are usually the ones trying to change men, it seemed more appropriate to address it to you girls.

If there's one thing that all those years of married life have taught me, it's that attempting to change a man is an exercise in futility.

But my reasons for not trying to change men have less to do with resigning myself to undesirable behaviour, than with mutual respect and consideration for a man's feelings.

Here's why I think it's not fair to men that we keep trying to change them.

1. He's entitled to his opinions and free will

I'm a big believer in a person’s right to exercise his free will. As long as he blames no one but himself and is willing to accept the consequences of his actions, a man should have the right to make his own mistakes and learn from them.

Respect his opinions and let him be. And the next t

eemed more appropriate to address it to you girls.

If there's one thing that all those years of married life have taught me, it's that attempting to change a man is an exercise in futility.

But my reasons for not trying to change men have less to do with resigning myself to undesirable behaviour, than with mutual respect and consideration for a man's feelings.

Here's why I think it's not fair to men that we keep trying to change them.

1. He's entitled to his opinions and free will

I'm a big believer in a person’s right to exercise his free will. As long as he blames no one but himself and is willing to accept the consequences of his actions, a man should have the right to make his own mistakes and learn from them.

Respect his opinions and let him be. And the next

ut my reasons for not trying to change men have less to do with resigning myself to undesirable behaviour, than with mutual respect and consideration for a man's feelings.

Here's why I think it's not fair to men that we keep trying to change them.

1. He's entitled to his opinions and free will

I'm a big believer in a person’s right to exercise his free will. As long as he blames no one but himself and is willing to accept the consequences of his actions, a man should have the right to make his own mistakes and learn from them.

Respect his opinions and let him be. And the next

not fair to men that we keep trying to change them.

1. He's entitled to his opinions and free will

I'm a big believer in a person’s right to exercise his free will. As long as he blames no one but himself and is willing to accept the consequences of his actions, a man should have the right to make his own mistakes and learn from them.

Respect his opinions and let him be. And the next

e but himself and is willing to accept the consequences of his actions, a man should have the right to make his own mistakes and learn from them.

Respect his opinions and let him be. And the next time you try to make him change his ways, imagine how YOU would feel if the tables were turned.

2. He will never change for the wrong reasons

The wrong reasons include threats, manipulation, coercion and other underhanded methods. And no, you're not allowed to use hypnosis or sex either. Play fair.

3. He will change only for the right reasons

The right reasons are inner-driven, and arise only when his actions create enough pain for him to desperately want to make a change. When he is sufficiently motivated to change, he’ll do it regardless of your wanting him to do it.

If he does decide to change, support him every step of the way, and get help for him and yourself. And what should I do if he doesn't want to change, you say?

Well, then you don't have too many optio