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    I keep telling people that redesigning your life and relationships after infidelity typically takes 2-4 years for those who struggle on their own. My goal is to accelerate that process for you, cutting it down to 6-18 months. I offer you the Infidelity Insider Membership for that very purpose: providing you the support, encouragement and resources you need to break free more quickly and powerfully well.

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    I stirred the pot. Boy did I get the emails with the article: The KEY Question You Ask and MUST have Answered even though you probably don’t know you are asking it.

    If you missed it go to my blog: http://www.infidelity-help.com/blog and read the article.

    I've observed thousands of people suffering from infidelity and, from my point of view, there is one underlying question that almost all ask. After a time of reflection and work at healing the pain, they "get it" and the question is answered.

    I didn't divulge in the article "the question." Hence the emails: WHAT IS THE QUESTION?

    I feel compelled to follow up.

    I am very reluctant to give you the question for a number of solid reasons.

    1. First, I don't want you to give me too much power. And, power is a key issue. In reality, I don't want you to give anyone more power than they deserve. This is often the case in infidelity. The offended partner often gives excessive power to the partner and or the other person. Every word and thought of the offended partner tends to hang on what the offending partner is saying or doing or not saying or doing. The offended spouse feels victimized, helpless and at the mercy of the other relationship. Why in the world would anyone give that much power to a person(s) who is clueless, lost and committing slow relational and familial suicide? And, often, when shifts in that power are made by the offended partner, dramatic changes occur. I hear it daily from those I coach and send me testimonials on the power of Break Free From the Affair.

    I want you to claim your power. Don't hand it over easily, even to me!

    2. If I told you, you probably wouldn't believe me. In some ways the question is fairly obvious and you may dismiss it as too simplistic.

    3. If I told you, you probably would brush it off and move on to something else. Oh, so that is THE QUESTION he is talking about! OK, now that my curiosity is fed I can answer the next question in my life. I don't want you to brush off this question. I want you to look at it - with great intensity.

    4. The question is found in YOUR journey to healing and peace. The question (and answer) will not come from an external source (such as me) but from within you. Now, since I know what that question is I can be there for you on that journey and be your guide. But, ultimately, it is you who will discover it. And when you do you will see powerful, wonderfully lasting changes in how you feel and think - guaranteed.

    I keep telling people that redesigning your life and relationships after infidelity typically takes 2-4 years for those who struggle on their own. My goal is to accelerate that process for you, cutting it down to 6-18 months. I offer you the Infidelity Insider Membership for that very purpose: providing you the support, encouragement and resources you need to break free more quickly and powerfully well.

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    THE QUESTION?

    I feel compelled to follow up.

    I am very reluctant to give you the question for a number of solid reasons.

    1. First, I don't want you to give me too much power. And, power is a key issue. In reality, I don't want you to give anyone more power than they deserve. This is often the case in infidelity. The offended partner often gives excessive power to the partner and or the other person. Every word and thought of the offended partner tends to hang on what the offending partner is saying or doing or not saying or doing. The offended spouse feels victimized, helpless and at the mercy of the other relationship. Why in the world would anyone give that much power to a person(s) who is clueless, lost and committing slow relational and familial suicide? And, often, when shifts in that power are made by the offended partner, dramatic changes occur. I hear it daily from those I coach and send me testimonials on the power of Break Free From the Affair.

    I want you to claim your power. Don't hand it over easily, even to me!

    2. If I told you, you probably wouldn't believe me. In some ways the question is fairly obvious and you may dismiss it as too simplistic.

    3. If I told you, you probably would brush it off and move on to something else. Oh, so that is THE QUESTION he is talking about! OK, now that my curiosity is fed I can answer the next question in my life. I don't want you to brush off this question. I want you to look at it - with great intensity.

    4. The question is found in YOUR journey to healing and peace. The question (and answer) will not come from an external source (such as me) but from within you. Now, since I know what that question is I can be there for you on that journey and be your guide. But, ultimately, it is you who will discover it. And when you do you will see powerful, wonderfully lasting changes in how you feel and think - guaranteed.

    I keep telling people that redesigning your life and relationships after infidelity typically takes 2-4 years for those who struggle on their own. My goal is to accelerate that process for you, cutting it down to 6-18 months. I offer you the Infidelity Insider Membership for that very purpose: providing you the support, encouragement and resources you need to break free more quickly and powerfully well.

    R

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    zed, helpless and at the mercy of the other relationship. Why in the world would anyone give that much power to a person(s) who is clueless, lost and committing slow relational and familial suicide? And, often, when shifts in that power are made by the offended partner, dramatic changes occur. I hear it daily from those I coach and send me testimonials on the power of Break Free From the Affair.

    I want you to claim your power. Don't hand it over easily, even to me!

    2. If I told you, you probably wouldn't believe me. In some ways the question is fairly obvious and you may dismiss it as too simplistic.

    3. If I told you, you probably would brush it off and move on to something else. Oh, so that is THE QUESTION he is talking about! OK, now that my curiosity is fed I can answer the next question in my life. I don't want you to brush off this question. I want you to look at it - with great intensity.

    4. The question is found in YOUR journey to healing and peace. The question (and answer) will not come from an external source (such as me) but from within you. Now, since I know what that question is I can be there for you on that journey and be your guide. But, ultimately, it is you who will discover it. And when you do you will see powerful, wonderfully lasting changes in how you feel and think - guaranteed.

    I keep telling people that redesigning your life and relationships after infidelity typically takes 2-4 years for those who struggle on their own. My goal is to accelerate that process for you, cutting it down to 6-18 months. I offer you the Infidelity Insider Membership for that very purpose: providing you the support, encouragement and resources you need to break free more quickly and powerfully well.

    R

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    dismiss it as too simplistic.

    3. If I told you, you probably would brush it off and move on to something else. Oh, so that is THE QUESTION he is talking about! OK, now that my curiosity is fed I can answer the next question in my life. I don't want you to brush off this question. I want you to look at it - with great intensity.

    4. The question is found in YOUR journey to healing and peace. The question (and answer) will not come from an external source (such as me) but from within you. Now, since I know what that question is I can be there for you on that journey and be your guide. But, ultimately, it is you who will discover it. And when you do you will see powerful, wonderfully lasting changes in how you feel and think - guaranteed.

    I keep telling people that redesigning your life and relationships after infidelity typically takes 2-4 years for those who struggle on their own. My goal is to accelerate that process for you, cutting it down to 6-18 months. I offer you the Infidelity Insider Membership for that very purpose: providing you the support, encouragement and resources you need to break free more quickly and powerfully well.

    R

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    your guide. But, ultimately, it is you who will discover it. And when you do you will see powerful, wonderfully lasting changes in how you feel and think - guaranteed.

    I keep telling people that redesigning your life and relationships after infidelity typically takes 2-4 years for those who struggle on their own. My goal is to accelerate that process for you, cutting it down to 6-18 months. I offer you the Infidelity Insider Membership for that very purpose: providing you the support, encouragement and resources you need to break free more quickly and powerfully well.

    Remember infidelity is your gift. Yes, I mean that! I've read hundreds of books on relationships. Have logged over 30,000 hours of giving direct face to face therapy. Have over a 1,000 hours of supervision as a marriage therapist and yet, I learned the most about infidelity from the infidelity in my marriage. And, it took me a while to learn it! (maybe I'm a little slow!). I was able to turn the proverbial lemon into lemonade. I think so many respond so positively to my material and me, because I discovered the question and the answer from the tearing of the fabric in my life. God it hurt. But I was blessed with it as well.

    So how do you name the question and experience the answer? Here's a posting from someone who is very very close! Listen to her and then take a few minutes to see which of these questions is most painfully pressing on you:

    Does it matter what any of the answers to my questions are? Once I know all the answers — what’s the question I ultimately want to answer?
    Can I forgive him no matter what all they did (whether I know or not)? –
    if I can then…
    Will I ever be at peace knowing it’l never happen again? –
    if no then…
    Can I continue living on in a situation knowing I may never be at peace to ever trust you again?
    if no then…
    If I can’t trust you to love me with respect as I ought to be loved, who can I trust?
    if there’s no one I can trust then…
    What is wrong with me that I don’t deserve to be loved as others successfully love each other?
    if there’s something wrong with me then…
    How was the affair my fault?
    if the affair was my fault, yet he didn’t even tell me what I was “driving him to do” then …
    Why should I try at all?
    if it’s my fault regardless of what he’s done then…
    Why should I even try to do what I ought to?
    if it’s not my fault then…
    What should I do?
    What’s the right thing to do?
    What’s it worth my life to be doing?
    How do I have peace that I know what reality is and that I can trust my own judgment?
    Do I need to know what reality is to have peace and trust my own judgment?
    If what’s best for me is the right thing to do — how do I know what’s best for me?
    If what’s best for me isn’t the best thing to do (thus not the right thing to do)– how do I know?

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