do” is to really listen first (before opening your mouth) and to listen with the objective of really understanding …. before offering any advice. This is your “solution” for how to bridge the major difference in communication styles between men and women. So curb your natural tendency to come right in there with an answer to her “dilemma” since most of the time she just wants you to listen and relate to her pain anyway.

Now this is not to say that men don’t want to be listened to or heard. However, their d

It’s well documented that men and women have different love and communication styles. When you read any of the pop culture books on the subject, you’re bound to be fed generalizations such as women are more emotional in nature, while men are predominantly problem solvers. Yet, in reality, that’s not always the case. In my practice I’ve witnessed women who were the key problem solvers in the relationship, so I exercise caution in assuming that the woman will be the “emotional” one.

Instead, it’s more accurate to say that women tend to need more of an emotional connection when we’re referring to their love and communication styles. Emotional connection, of course, meaning that women want to feel heard and really listened to. Therefore, for most women to feel good about a relationship overall, there must be an emotional connection. Men, on the other hand, tend to exercise more of a problem solving style. That’s why when the woman is talking about something the man comes in with a “fix it” reply. However, I can state that almost 80 percent of the time women are the ones who stir up the conversation along the “we need to talk” line. This also means she needs to feel heard and connected in doing so, not that she necessarily wants the man to immediately rush in and problem solve which he is naturally prone to doing.

So if you’re one of the many women who get frustrated when their man does this, please realize that he’s doing it simply because men have always done so. If you look back at history, men have been the hunters and the gatherers, leaving the fold as it were to go out and do a day’s work. While women have been the ones who have stayed within the community, doing most of the socializing and nurturing.

Recognize that men are not intentionally doing this to upset you. They’re doing it because that’s their way of showing you they care. Please read that line again. Because that is what men have been conditioned to do and what they know best.

Now for the men, please hear this — the most important thing you can “do” is to really listen first (before opening your mouth) and to listen with the objective of really understanding …. before offering any advice. This is your “solution” for how to bridge the major difference in communication styles between men and women. So curb your natural tendency to come right in there with an answer to her “dilemma” since most of the time she just wants you to listen and relate to her pain anyway.

Now this is not to say that men don’t want to be listened to or heard. However, their de

rate to say that women tend to need more of an emotional connection when we’re referring to their love and communication styles. Emotional connection, of course, meaning that women want to feel heard and really listened to. Therefore, for most women to feel good about a relationship overall, there must be an emotional connection. Men, on the other hand, tend to exercise more of a problem solving style. That’s why when the woman is talking about something the man comes in with a “fix it” reply. However, I can state that almost 80 percent of the time women are the ones who stir up the conversation along the “we need to talk” line. This also means she needs to feel heard and connected in doing so, not that she necessarily wants the man to immediately rush in and problem solve which he is naturally prone to doing.

So if you’re one of the many women who get frustrated when their man does this, please realize that he’s doing it simply because men have always done so. If you look back at history, men have been the hunters and the gatherers, leaving the fold as it were to go out and do a day’s work. While women have been the ones who have stayed within the community, doing most of the socializing and nurturing.

Recognize that men are not intentionally doing this to upset you. They’re doing it because that’s their way of showing you they care. Please read that line again. Because that is what men have been conditioned to do and what they know best.

Now for the men, please hear this — the most important thing you can “do” is to really listen first (before opening your mouth) and to listen with the objective of really understanding …. before offering any advice. This is your “solution” for how to bridge the major difference in communication styles between men and women. So curb your natural tendency to come right in there with an answer to her “dilemma” since most of the time she just wants you to listen and relate to her pain anyway.

Now this is not to say that men don’t want to be listened to or heard. However, their d

te that almost 80 percent of the time women are the ones who stir up the conversation along the “we need to talk” line. This also means she needs to feel heard and connected in doing so, not that she necessarily wants the man to immediately rush in and problem solve which he is naturally prone to doing.

So if you’re one of the many women who get frustrated when their man does this, please realize that he’s doing it simply because men have always done so. If you look back at history, men have been the hunters and the gatherers, leaving the fold as it were to go out and do a day’s work. While women have been the ones who have stayed within the community, doing most of the socializing and nurturing.

Recognize that men are not intentionally doing this to upset you. They’re doing it because that’s their way of showing you they care. Please read that line again. Because that is what men have been conditioned to do and what they know best.

Now for the men, please hear this — the most important thing you can “do” is to really listen first (before opening your mouth) and to listen with the objective of really understanding …. before offering any advice. This is your “solution” for how to bridge the major difference in communication styles between men and women. So curb your natural tendency to come right in there with an answer to her “dilemma” since most of the time she just wants you to listen and relate to her pain anyway.

Now this is not to say that men don’t want to be listened to or heard. However, their d

rs and the gatherers, leaving the fold as it were to go out and do a day’s work. While women have been the ones who have stayed within the community, doing most of the socializing and nurturing.

Recognize that men are not intentionally doing this to upset you. They’re doing it because that’s their way of showing you they care. Please read that line again. Because that is what men have been conditioned to do and what they know best.

Now for the men, please hear this — the most important thing you can “do” is to really listen first (before opening your mouth) and to listen with the objective of really understanding …. before offering any advice. This is your “solution” for how to bridge the major difference in communication styles between men and women. So curb your natural tendency to come right in there with an answer to her “dilemma” since most of the time she just wants you to listen and relate to her pain anyway.

Now this is not to say that men don’t want to be listened to or heard. However, their d

do” is to really listen first (before opening your mouth) and to listen with the objective of really understanding …. before offering any advice. This is your “solution” for how to bridge the major difference in communication styles between men and women. So curb your natural tendency to come right in there with an answer to her “dilemma” since most of the time she just wants you to listen and relate to her pain anyway.

Now this is not to say that men don’t want to be listened to or heard. However, their desire is less inherent. Nonetheless, it’s also important to bear in mind that in relating to your partner (man or women) that each has preferences in how they communicate what they want to say and how they prefer to have another person relate to them. Some of us are more kinesthetic; some more auditory; some more visual. So keep this in mind to further enhance your approach and results with the one you love.

Bottom Line: Our differences are “normal”… and we also each process information a little bit differently. Viva la difference!