• When you are having a conversation, don't do something else at the same time.
• Take care to minimize distracters (TV, computer, cell phone, etc.) in the environment.
• If you find your attention drifting, consciously bring it back to the conversation.
• Make a mental note of key points that you hear during the conversation.
• Listen, don't just ‘wait to talk'.

• What's the subject you wish to discuss?
• What's the timeframe for the conversation (schedule and length)?
• What's required of the listener?
• If it's a negative message, prepare the listener ("This is difficult for me to say, and may be difficult for you to hear...")

• What's the message you are hoping to get across?
• Determine associated information that's needed to support your message.
• Consider anticipated response of the listener, including possible concerns or objections.
• Word choice, tone and body language shape your message.
• Being more conscious helps you to be a better listener, too.

As a speaker:

• ‘Check in' with your listener to make sure that your message is being conveyed as intended.
• Don't make assumptions of your listener's knowledge of or interest in the subject.
• Allow for and respond to questions.
• Use analogies or common examples to help facilitate understanding.

• Use ‘active listening' ("What I hear you saying is ...)
• Ask clarifying questions ("Do you mean...")
• Reflect observed body language and tone to confirm impressions.

• Responding to an attack with an attack contributes to a downward spiral of negative interactions.
• Take a couple of deep breaths or count to ten before responding.
• Look for common ground to get back on track.
• Watch for emotional ‘flooding' and take a time-out if needed.
• If what you
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  ip 2: Set the stage (Tell your audience what's coming)
  • What's the subject you wish to discuss?
  • What's the timeframe for the conversation (schedule and length)?
  • What's required of the listener?
  • If it's a negative message, prepare the listener ("This is difficult for me to say, and may be difficult for you to hear...")
  Tip 3: Think before you speak - and while you are speaking (Be more conscious to be more effective)
  • What's the message you are hoping to get across?
  • Determine associated information that's needed to support your message.
  • Consider anticipated response of the listener, including possible concerns or objections.
  • Word choice, tone and body language shape your message.
  • Being more conscious helps you to be a better listener, too.
  Tip 4: I can see clearly now ... (Clarification is critical for effective communication)

  As a speaker:

  • ‘Check in' with your listener to make sure that your message is being conveyed as intended.
  • Don't make assumptions of your listener's knowledge of or interest in the subject.
  • Allow for and respond to questions.
  • Use analogies or common examples to help facilitate understanding.
  As a listener:
  • Use ‘active listening' ("What I hear you saying is ...)
  • Ask clarifying questions ("Do you mean...")
  • Reflect observed body language and tone to confirm impressions.
  Tip 5: Take the high road (Break the cycle of negative interaction patterns)
  • Responding to an attack with an attack contributes to a downward spiral of negative interactions.
  • Take a couple of deep breaths or count to ten before responding.
  • Look for common ground to get back on track.
  • Watch for emotional ‘flooding' and take a time-out if needed.
  • If what you
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    • What's the message you are hoping to get across?
    • Determine associated information that's needed to support your message.
    • Consider anticipated response of the listener, including possible concerns or objections.
    • Word choice, tone and body language shape your message.
    • Being more conscious helps you to be a better listener, too.
    Tip 4: I can see clearly now ... (Clarification is critical for effective communication)

    As a speaker:

    • ‘Check in' with your listener to make sure that your message is being conveyed as intended.
    • Don't make assumptions of your listener's knowledge of or interest in the subject.
    • Allow for and respond to questions.
    • Use analogies or common examples to help facilitate understanding.
    As a listener:
    • Use ‘active listening' ("What I hear you saying is ...)
    • Ask clarifying questions ("Do you mean...")
    • Reflect observed body language and tone to confirm impressions.
    Tip 5: Take the high road (Break the cycle of negative interaction patterns)
    • Responding to an attack with an attack contributes to a downward spiral of negative interactions.
    • Take a couple of deep breaths or count to ten before responding.
    • Look for common ground to get back on track.
    • Watch for emotional ‘flooding' and take a time-out if needed.
    • If what you
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      • ‘Check in' with your listener to make sure that your message is being conveyed as intended.
      • Don't make assumptions of your listener's knowledge of or interest in the subject.
      • Allow for and respond to questions.
      • Use analogies or common examples to help facilitate understanding.
      As a listener:
      • Use ‘active listening' ("What I hear you saying is ...)
      • Ask clarifying questions ("Do you mean...")
      • Reflect observed body language and tone to confirm impressions.
      Tip 5: Take the high road (Break the cycle of negative interaction patterns)
      • Responding to an attack with an attack contributes to a downward spiral of negative interactions.
      • Take a couple of deep breaths or count to ten before responding.
      • Look for common ground to get back on track.
      • Watch for emotional ‘flooding' and take a time-out if needed.
      • If what you
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      Tip 5: Take the high road (Break the cycle of negative interaction patterns)
      • Responding to an attack with an attack contributes to a downward spiral of negative interactions.
      • Take a couple of deep breaths or count to ten before responding.
      • Look for common ground to get back on track.
      • Watch for emotional ‘flooding' and take a time-out if needed.
      • If what you are doing isn't working, do something different.