he struggle, as a victim of infant abuse himself, he is very unwilling to ever see his mother with the lense of reality. It's a sick situation. However, it's important for women with abusive mother in laws to know you are not alone. You sometimes have to be the strong one to protect your family. In my case, my mother in law had a pattern of abusively force feeding babies. She force fed my husband as an infant with a spoon, by holding her thighs over his torso as he screamed and cried in protest. This lady actually tried to force feed my son in my home while I was on a business call. Fortunately, I was present and able to intervene. The lady never took responsibilty for her abusive behavior with my son. And interestingly, the entire family, my father in law and husband tried to emotionally and verbally attack me in defense of this sick behavior. However, over time with compassionI had the dream life. I had a career I loved. I married when I was mature enough to pick a partner for the right reasons. I had a partner, a son, a baby girl on the way, and two lovely puppies. Add the picket fence and you could say I had it all. On the surface of course...

Beneath the surface I was struggling with the demise of a marriage due to the malicious interactions of a verbally and emotionally abusive mother in law who was going unstopped in the family. This women had such control over the men in her family, that she could say and do as she pleased, and no one would stop her from viscous behavior. I became the victim of emotional and verbal abuse, first from my mother in law, then her extended family members, and then ultimately from my husband. I was a highly educated women. My goodness, I even had a Ph.D. in Psychology. I was going to be the next Asian Indian Dr. Phil, how could anything so serious be happening in my life?

The walls came crashing down upon me, when my mother in law crossed the line to not only verbally and emotionally abuse me, she repeatedly hurt my infant son too. The saddest thing about this situation, is that my mother in law "did not intentionally" verbally and emotionally abuse anyone. Even though she was the former manager of a pre-school, she did not consider that flying into a mad rage directed at me in front of my 2 month old son, would ultimately harm the baby.

When I tried to rationalize with my mother in law not to shout in front of the baby and even set a limit with her mad rages that were in hearing distance of my two month old son, she exploded into an enormous shouting attack of unbelievable proportions. My then 2 month old son, was quivering in my arms with fear. I had one gift as a mother, in that I had enormous mother's intuition- and I knew my mother in law's shouting verbally abusive comments at me had resulted in sheer terror and fear for my son- from his perspective, he had done something to cause such anger. An infant of this age does not have the capacity to handle hearing an abusive adult. As adults- parents or grandparents, we owe it to our children not to expose them to such emotional abuse.

My son suffered from the most intense "colic" at that time. He was crying in pain throughout the day, and no one else had the patience to sit with hours of screaming agony from him. I knew that my son was a very empathic, emotionally gifted child that was picking up the emotionally abusive nature of my mother in law, and it was manifesting itself physically as "colic". Colic is an interesting term for "we don't know what is going on, there are no physical problems, good luck, we could over medicate the baby with addictive drugs to make us all feel better."

During this time, my husband refused to see the connection between my mother in law's abusive behavior and my child's sickness. I had one advantage in that I was highly educated and could read like a demon when need be. So I read everything about the brain gut axis in the infant, and the link between exposure to emotional abuse and infant physical problems. I fortunately had the strength to walk away from the situation, with a two month old infant and two puppies, and take back my life even when my family was not being protected by my husband.

Interestingly, after my son was removed from my mother in law's house, all the extreme physical symptoms my son had disappeared. And yet to this day, although my husband and I have worked on staying married and communicating through the struggle, as a victim of infant abuse himself, he is very unwilling to ever see his mother with the lense of reality. It's a sick situation. However, it's important for women with abusive mother in laws to know you are not alone. You sometimes have to be the strong one to protect your family. In my case, my mother in law had a pattern of abusively force feeding babies. She force fed my husband as an infant with a spoon, by holding her thighs over his torso as he screamed and cried in protest. This lady actually tried to force feed my son in my home while I was on a business call. Fortunately, I was present and able to intervene. The lady never took responsibilty for her abusive behavior with my son. And interestingly, the entire family, my father in law and husband tried to emotionally and verbally attack me in defense of this sick behavior. However, over time with compassion,

r. Phil, how could anything so serious be happening in my life?

The walls came crashing down upon me, when my mother in law crossed the line to not only verbally and emotionally abuse me, she repeatedly hurt my infant son too. The saddest thing about this situation, is that my mother in law "did not intentionally" verbally and emotionally abuse anyone. Even though she was the former manager of a pre-school, she did not consider that flying into a mad rage directed at me in front of my 2 month old son, would ultimately harm the baby.

When I tried to rationalize with my mother in law not to shout in front of the baby and even set a limit with her mad rages that were in hearing distance of my two month old son, she exploded into an enormous shouting attack of unbelievable proportions. My then 2 month old son, was quivering in my arms with fear. I had one gift as a mother, in that I had enormous mother's intuition- and I knew my mother in law's shouting verbally abusive comments at me had resulted in sheer terror and fear for my son- from his perspective, he had done something to cause such anger. An infant of this age does not have the capacity to handle hearing an abusive adult. As adults- parents or grandparents, we owe it to our children not to expose them to such emotional abuse.

My son suffered from the most intense "colic" at that time. He was crying in pain throughout the day, and no one else had the patience to sit with hours of screaming agony from him. I knew that my son was a very empathic, emotionally gifted child that was picking up the emotionally abusive nature of my mother in law, and it was manifesting itself physically as "colic". Colic is an interesting term for "we don't know what is going on, there are no physical problems, good luck, we could over medicate the baby with addictive drugs to make us all feel better."

During this time, my husband refused to see the connection between my mother in law's abusive behavior and my child's sickness. I had one advantage in that I was highly educated and could read like a demon when need be. So I read everything about the brain gut axis in the infant, and the link between exposure to emotional abuse and infant physical problems. I fortunately had the strength to walk away from the situation, with a two month old infant and two puppies, and take back my life even when my family was not being protected by my husband.

Interestingly, after my son was removed from my mother in law's house, all the extreme physical symptoms my son had disappeared. And yet to this day, although my husband and I have worked on staying married and communicating through the struggle, as a victim of infant abuse himself, he is very unwilling to ever see his mother with the lense of reality. It's a sick situation. However, it's important for women with abusive mother in laws to know you are not alone. You sometimes have to be the strong one to protect your family. In my case, my mother in law had a pattern of abusively force feeding babies. She force fed my husband as an infant with a spoon, by holding her thighs over his torso as he screamed and cried in protest. This lady actually tried to force feed my son in my home while I was on a business call. Fortunately, I was present and able to intervene. The lady never took responsibilty for her abusive behavior with my son. And interestingly, the entire family, my father in law and husband tried to emotionally and verbally attack me in defense of this sick behavior. However, over time with compassion

in that I had enormous mother's intuition- and I knew my mother in law's shouting verbally abusive comments at me had resulted in sheer terror and fear for my son- from his perspective, he had done something to cause such anger. An infant of this age does not have the capacity to handle hearing an abusive adult. As adults- parents or grandparents, we owe it to our children not to expose them to such emotional abuse.

My son suffered from the most intense "colic" at that time. He was crying in pain throughout the day, and no one else had the patience to sit with hours of screaming agony from him. I knew that my son was a very empathic, emotionally gifted child that was picking up the emotionally abusive nature of my mother in law, and it was manifesting itself physically as "colic". Colic is an interesting term for "we don't know what is going on, there are no physical problems, good luck, we could over medicate the baby with addictive drugs to make us all feel better."

During this time, my husband refused to see the connection between my mother in law's abusive behavior and my child's sickness. I had one advantage in that I was highly educated and could read like a demon when need be. So I read everything about the brain gut axis in the infant, and the link between exposure to emotional abuse and infant physical problems. I fortunately had the strength to walk away from the situation, with a two month old infant and two puppies, and take back my life even when my family was not being protected by my husband.

Interestingly, after my son was removed from my mother in law's house, all the extreme physical symptoms my son had disappeared. And yet to this day, although my husband and I have worked on staying married and communicating through the struggle, as a victim of infant abuse himself, he is very unwilling to ever see his mother with the lense of reality. It's a sick situation. However, it's important for women with abusive mother in laws to know you are not alone. You sometimes have to be the strong one to protect your family. In my case, my mother in law had a pattern of abusively force feeding babies. She force fed my husband as an infant with a spoon, by holding her thighs over his torso as he screamed and cried in protest. This lady actually tried to force feed my son in my home while I was on a business call. Fortunately, I was present and able to intervene. The lady never took responsibilty for her abusive behavior with my son. And interestingly, the entire family, my father in law and husband tried to emotionally and verbally attack me in defense of this sick behavior. However, over time with compassion

ems, good luck, we could over medicate the baby with addictive drugs to make us all feel better."

During this time, my husband refused to see the connection between my mother in law's abusive behavior and my child's sickness. I had one advantage in that I was highly educated and could read like a demon when need be. So I read everything about the brain gut axis in the infant, and the link between exposure to emotional abuse and infant physical problems. I fortunately had the strength to walk away from the situation, with a two month old infant and two puppies, and take back my life even when my family was not being protected by my husband.

Interestingly, after my son was removed from my mother in law's house, all the extreme physical symptoms my son had disappeared. And yet to this day, although my husband and I have worked on staying married and communicating through the struggle, as a victim of infant abuse himself, he is very unwilling to ever see his mother with the lense of reality. It's a sick situation. However, it's important for women with abusive mother in laws to know you are not alone. You sometimes have to be the strong one to protect your family. In my case, my mother in law had a pattern of abusively force feeding babies. She force fed my husband as an infant with a spoon, by holding her thighs over his torso as he screamed and cried in protest. This lady actually tried to force feed my son in my home while I was on a business call. Fortunately, I was present and able to intervene. The lady never took responsibilty for her abusive behavior with my son. And interestingly, the entire family, my father in law and husband tried to emotionally and verbally attack me in defense of this sick behavior. However, over time with compassion

he struggle, as a victim of infant abuse himself, he is very unwilling to ever see his mother with the lense of reality. It's a sick situation. However, it's important for women with abusive mother in laws to know you are not alone. You sometimes have to be the strong one to protect your family. In my case, my mother in law had a pattern of abusively force feeding babies. She force fed my husband as an infant with a spoon, by holding her thighs over his torso as he screamed and cried in protest. This lady actually tried to force feed my son in my home while I was on a business call. Fortunately, I was present and able to intervene. The lady never took responsibilty for her abusive behavior with my son. And interestingly, the entire family, my father in law and husband tried to emotionally and verbally attack me in defense of this sick behavior. However, over time with compassion, I understand a family with a narcissistic and abusive mother without self awareness, learns to cover up what really happens. They try to make the person who stands up against abuse as the crazy one.

After experiencing from the inside how bad abuse can get from an intimate family member, I have committed my life's work to spiritually healing abuse survivors, so you become the mothers, lovers, and professionals you deserve to be. I will be publishing a series of articles called, "You're the First", that will be about how women and men have turned around difficult situations, and become highly successful in their own right. Believe in yourself, you can get anything you dream of...