I Advice - Relationships

Joint Venture Piggybacking
When I was 11 years old, my favorite game at school was similar to piggybacking. I don’t remember what we called the game. Small guys like me would ride on the backs of big, strong guys and we would try to pull our opponents over. The best part of Joint Ventures, as well as the easiest and most lucrative, is “Piggybacking”. They key to winning was strong arms and a strong “Horse”. I had strong arms and I always chose a strong horse, so I usually won. In business, the book, “Horse Sense” by Al Ries and Jack Trout applies the same concept. This book was personally recommended to me by a multimillionaire client of mine, many years ago. I read the book three times.I recently talked with a man who has 1,200 people in his database. I suggested he offer them Membership in my DollarMakers Joint Venture Forum at a great discount. By sending out two e mails and one voice broadcast and ad

our male partner?

4. Does his female relatives (especially his mother female primary caregiver) write to you or send cards without reference to your male partner?

5. Are his female relatives (especially his mother) friendly to you over the phone? (This is a very telling sign of how his mother feels about you.)

6. Does she talk to you about issues that do not concern her son? Give examples.

7. Is she critical of your ideas, clothes or goals? Give examples.

8. Do you intuitively feel that his mother likes you and supports your relationship with her son? (Trust your gut feelings).

9. How would you describe his relationships with his mother? How often does he talk to her? Does he speak fondly of her? Ask him three of his favorite memories with his mother?

10. Write a brief biographical summary about his mother. Include the type of jobs that she has held and her highest level of education.

11. How do you think that his mother feels about her relationship with his father?

12. How does your male partner feel about the quality of his parent’s relationship? Does he want to emulate their relationship? If not, why?

13. If he has sister(s) or female cousin (s), write a brief description of each close female, her dress style and the type of men that she dates. Note whether or not he has a c

Tax Refunds-What to Do About Them
You may not think that big tax refunds are a problem-but they can be. If you are withholding more on your paycheck than you get as a refund, then you should consider getting your withholding less and getting smaller tax refunds. The government is using your money all year without paying any interest. Then, they give you some of that money back. If this is the case with you, think about your tax refunds and how you can better manage your finances to make more out of your money.Taxpayers in the United States receive average tax refunds of between $2,000 and $3,000 every year. Some of these refunds are to people who have limited incomes and get large tax credits. But, many are from people who just pay too many taxes. If you are in the second group, you should try to change your deductions so that less is taken out of your paycheck and your tax refunds are smaller. The extr

Your toughest competitor and critic will be none other than the woman who prepared your man’s food during his developmental years. It doesn’t matter if she was a good or bad mother, it doesn’t matter if she is living or dead; it doesn’t matter if she was an absent mother or a part of his life on a daily basis__ his mother is the template and prototype of what a woman should or should not be like burned into his brain. Her mere presence or lack thereof, through osmosis has conditioned him into his beliefs about women and their role in his life.

His mother is the first woman to satisfy his emotional and physical needs. She is the first woman that he stared at adoringly. His mother who may or may not be beautiful to you__ is the woman who has set the standard of beauty by which he will measure other women in his life. Will you cook his favorite dish as good as his mother? Will you do laundry and fold his clothes like his mother? Will you be able to understand and maneuver the little idiosyncrasies of his personality like his mother? His mother, grandmother, aunts, sister and other females relatives have defined womanhood for him through interaction such as eating, sleeping, playing, performing chores, watching television, down to simply deciding who should sit in the front seat of the car.

They will tell him to look beyond your beauty and drop-dead gorgeous body to see the real you. They will refer to you as a slut or good-girl. They will tell him all of the dirty little secrets that women share about the virtues and hidden agendas of other women. Contrary to popular belief, women are more likely to refer to each other as bitches, tramps, whores, and sluts more so than men do in every day language. Women are more likely to look at another woman’s clothing and call her a slut or tramp because she is jealous of this woman’s physical attractiveness. Women fear that their male partner may become aroused by the physical attractiveness of a beautiful woman. This is why many women sub-consciously verbally attack the beautiful woman’s image in order to tarnish her beauty in the mind of others.

In most traditional families it is the women in the family who prepare the food for family festivities. The women gather in the kitchen to discuss, debate, evaluate and determine not only who is going to make the biscuits and wash the dinner dishes, but which women are worthy to become a part of the family clan. While chopping onions, peeling potatoes, and kneeling dough, these women will discuss the clothing of all of the women who attended the last family gathering, the length of time that some women flirted and chatted with the male family members; and which marriages and relationships should be salvaged or terminated.

These women will decide while washing and drying the dishes, sweeping the floor and putting the leftover food in the refrigerator whether or not your marriage with their male family member should be saved through their intervention of wisdom, love, and support; or whether or not they should give him ten reasons why he should not propose marriage or break off the engagement. The women in his family can heal or destroy his relationship with you. Housekeeping, cooking, and mending are the chores that bind the apron and heart strings of a man to his feminine ideology.

The women who performed these tasks in your man’s life will remain constant; they were his first and will be his last love. You must figure out where you fit into this web of women is his life. And though we, women, never talk about the influence that women family members have on impacting the quality of the relationship that we have with the man in our lives, we acknowledge the power that women have over the men in their lives.

Not only can we take another woman’s husband or boyfriend; we also have the power to take away a woman’s male child. You are the woman who is going to take her little boy away from her and possibly break his heart. You are the woman who could possibly turn her little boy against her and break her heart. You are the woman who could possibly make better fried chicken, scrambled eggs and lamb chops than his mother. You are the woman who can deny her access to her grandchildren. Don’t think for one moment that she…his mother and female relatives are going to give their male relative’s heart to you if they do not believe that you are worthy of its possession.

Answer and discuss the following questions with other women to assess the hidden power that your male partner’s female relatives have in determining the quality of the relationship that he is currently having with you. In addition, based on your answers to the following questions evaluate if the women in your male partner’s life is likely to support or destroy your relationship with him during difficult times.

1. If applicable, did his mother (primary female caregiver this may include grandmother, aunts, sister or nanny) try to establish a relationship with you? In what way did she reach out to you or in what ways could she have reached out to you but chose not to.

2. Is his female relatives (especially his mother female primary caregiver) close to his previous wife or girlfriends? Briefly explain the relationship.

3. Does his female relatives (especially his mother female primary caregiver) invite you to family or social functions without your male partner?