Scanner - You've seen them. They sit at a table or the bar by themselves just looking over the room. They might be found near the DJ booth. They spend most of the night looking around; maybe make a trip or two around the dance floor. After two or three drinks they might ask a woman to dance. These men are average in looks and are not creepy. If you smile at them they will smile back. They are pleasant in their tone if you speak with them. They are eager to speak with you intelligently if you are open to conversation with them. However they are reserved so don't always expect them to come right up to you. You will know if they are interested in you. If you look their Ok so in Part 1 I gave you a peek into the mind of the average American male. Now let's look at him in the dating environment. We all know the bar scene is where a lot of the "hunt" takes place. Sure you have supermarkets, private parties, friend hookups and even the Internet but the tried and true is at the bar. Why? Well believe it or not men do not go to the bar just to try and get lucky for the night. Oh sure there are times that yes that is all we are looking for and we might be considered dogs for doing so but ladies you have to admit you go for the same reason. You are there to check out the local wild life, meet new people, enjoy the music, have some drinks, and have fun and occasionally prospect for a one-night stand. Men are there for the same reasons. Let's look at the types of men you will find at the bar and define them. There are generally three types you will find. I call them The Player, The Pack Hunter, and The Scanner. So let's look at them in-depth.

The Player - We all know this type. Talk, dark and handsome, just about every woman in the bar keeps looking at him giggling like a schoolgirl. He knows he's good looking and can have just about any woman in the place. He dances with several different women, might pick one he favors and spends time with her then moves on. What's his motive? He is looking to fill his book with numbers of women that he thinks he can get lucky with. Good tactic for the occasional hook up or if he needs a date for a party. Trust me ladies, you are part of a big pool of women that are just sitting around waiting for the guy to call you for a night out. Don't expect anything long term from him because you aren't going to get it.

The Pack Hunter - These are the ones that generally go to the bar with friends. They will typically be loud and try to draw the attention of any woman that is walking by their table. They will try to strike up a group conversation with the woman at which time it will turn crude and the woman will walk off. Occasionally you will see one of the pack break off and go up to the woman that was just insulted and he will attempt to apologize for his friends. This is a tactic. If you watch that group they will do that time and again. Each time the group will slowly get smaller. When it's down to the final two men they will find a couple girls that are there together and will garner their attention. Ladies this is all a tactic. Even in the wild, the pack is much more successful at getting it's prey working as a group than if only one member went out to hunt. Please note that these packs are out for one thing and one thing only; they want to get lucky for the night.

The Scanner - You've seen them. They sit at a table or the bar by themselves just looking over the room. They might be found near the DJ booth. They spend most of the night looking around; maybe make a trip or two around the dance floor. After two or three drinks they might ask a woman to dance. These men are average in looks and are not creepy. If you smile at them they will smile back. They are pleasant in their tone if you speak with them. They are eager to speak with you intelligently if you are open to conversation with them. However they are reserved so don't always expect them to come right up to you. You will know if they are interested in you. If you look their

fun and occasionally prospect for a one-night stand. Men are there for the same reasons. Let's look at the types of men you will find at the bar and define them. There are generally three types you will find. I call them The Player, The Pack Hunter, and The Scanner. So let's look at them in-depth.

The Player - We all know this type. Talk, dark and handsome, just about every woman in the bar keeps looking at him giggling like a schoolgirl. He knows he's good looking and can have just about any woman in the place. He dances with several different women, might pick one he favors and spends time with her then moves on. What's his motive? He is looking to fill his book with numbers of women that he thinks he can get lucky with. Good tactic for the occasional hook up or if he needs a date for a party. Trust me ladies, you are part of a big pool of women that are just sitting around waiting for the guy to call you for a night out. Don't expect anything long term from him because you aren't going to get it.

The Pack Hunter - These are the ones that generally go to the bar with friends. They will typically be loud and try to draw the attention of any woman that is walking by their table. They will try to strike up a group conversation with the woman at which time it will turn crude and the woman will walk off. Occasionally you will see one of the pack break off and go up to the woman that was just insulted and he will attempt to apologize for his friends. This is a tactic. If you watch that group they will do that time and again. Each time the group will slowly get smaller. When it's down to the final two men they will find a couple girls that are there together and will garner their attention. Ladies this is all a tactic. Even in the wild, the pack is much more successful at getting it's prey working as a group than if only one member went out to hunt. Please note that these packs are out for one thing and one thing only; they want to get lucky for the night.

The Scanner - You've seen them. They sit at a table or the bar by themselves just looking over the room. They might be found near the DJ booth. They spend most of the night looking around; maybe make a trip or two around the dance floor. After two or three drinks they might ask a woman to dance. These men are average in looks and are not creepy. If you smile at them they will smile back. They are pleasant in their tone if you speak with them. They are eager to speak with you intelligently if you are open to conversation with them. However they are reserved so don't always expect them to come right up to you. You will know if they are interested in you. If you look their

fill his book with numbers of women that he thinks he can get lucky with. Good tactic for the occasional hook up or if he needs a date for a party. Trust me ladies, you are part of a big pool of women that are just sitting around waiting for the guy to call you for a night out. Don't expect anything long term from him because you aren't going to get it.

The Pack Hunter - These are the ones that generally go to the bar with friends. They will typically be loud and try to draw the attention of any woman that is walking by their table. They will try to strike up a group conversation with the woman at which time it will turn crude and the woman will walk off. Occasionally you will see one of the pack break off and go up to the woman that was just insulted and he will attempt to apologize for his friends. This is a tactic. If you watch that group they will do that time and again. Each time the group will slowly get smaller. When it's down to the final two men they will find a couple girls that are there together and will garner their attention. Ladies this is all a tactic. Even in the wild, the pack is much more successful at getting it's prey working as a group than if only one member went out to hunt. Please note that these packs are out for one thing and one thing only; they want to get lucky for the night.

The Scanner - You've seen them. They sit at a table or the bar by themselves just looking over the room. They might be found near the DJ booth. They spend most of the night looking around; maybe make a trip or two around the dance floor. After two or three drinks they might ask a woman to dance. These men are average in looks and are not creepy. If you smile at them they will smile back. They are pleasant in their tone if you speak with them. They are eager to speak with you intelligently if you are open to conversation with them. However they are reserved so don't always expect them to come right up to you. You will know if they are interested in you. If you look their

f. Occasionally you will see one of the pack break off and go up to the woman that was just insulted and he will attempt to apologize for his friends. This is a tactic. If you watch that group they will do that time and again. Each time the group will slowly get smaller. When it's down to the final two men they will find a couple girls that are there together and will garner their attention. Ladies this is all a tactic. Even in the wild, the pack is much more successful at getting it's prey working as a group than if only one member went out to hunt. Please note that these packs are out for one thing and one thing only; they want to get lucky for the night.

The Scanner - You've seen them. They sit at a table or the bar by themselves just looking over the room. They might be found near the DJ booth. They spend most of the night looking around; maybe make a trip or two around the dance floor. After two or three drinks they might ask a woman to dance. These men are average in looks and are not creepy. If you smile at them they will smile back. They are pleasant in their tone if you speak with them. They are eager to speak with you intelligently if you are open to conversation with them. However they are reserved so don't always expect them to come right up to you. You will know if they are interested in you. If you look their

Scanner - You've seen them. They sit at a table or the bar by themselves just looking over the room. They might be found near the DJ booth. They spend most of the night looking around; maybe make a trip or two around the dance floor. After two or three drinks they might ask a woman to dance. These men are average in looks and are not creepy. If you smile at them they will smile back. They are pleasant in their tone if you speak with them. They are eager to speak with you intelligently if you are open to conversation with them. However they are reserved so don't always expect them to come right up to you. You will know if they are interested in you. If you look their way they will look you in the eye for just a moment and then turn away. This is your average male. They are not really out for the one night stand and are really looking for stability. They are genuine and given time a real relationship.

So ladies, that is the typical group you will find at the bar. Which one you go with is up to you. I’ll hazard that you would be better off with the Scanner if you want a real relationship. You will find that they are attentive to your needs, willing to spend time with you providing you let them have their space too. They will treat you like a queen and be loyal to you. However, it’s a two way street. The average male has no problem doing things for you and with you but if he is giving and you are just taking he will tire of the relationship quickly. For example, if you say your back or shoulders hurt he will be quick to rub them for you. Rest assured however that if he is doing all the rubbing and not getting it returned in kind he will stop offering. Take time to show that you appreciate him and he will do the same. Put your arms around him, make him his favorite foods or treats, run a bath for him, offer a back rub out of the blue. He likes the attention and will shower you with love and affection in return. Honey-do lists? No problem. This is your average American male.