t a house a block away from the kids so they spent a lot of time voluntarily shuttling back and forth between both households. Both parents made the effort to communicate as everyone adjusted to the fact that daddy now slept in a different house.

When the divorce was finalized, things changed. Within a month of the divorce, Sam began refusing to visit his father. His sister, A

Let's face it - divorce is hard. For parents, for kids, for families, even for the family pet... divorce is difficult. Yet turn on any TV program and you'll see divorced parents happily raising their successful children - shows in which every problem can be solved in 30 - 60 minutes - shows in which the child moves seamlessly between two households and where the parents remain the best of friends and communicate openly while sharing the parenting responsibilities.

Communication and cooperation are supposed to be two-way streets, but things don't always turn out the way they should. Sadly, the majority of marriages end bitterly and it takes many years for both partners to come to terms with the marriage breakdown and stop punishing each other. Often times, however, those years of communication breakdown affect the children deeply.

It's common in single parent households, for the custodial parent to develop a deep bond with the child. In households where there are still unresolved issues between the divorced adults, the connection between custodial parent and child could, directly or indirectly, lead to conflicts with the non-custodial parent.

Let's meet Sam & Amanda

Sam is eight years old. He has an older sister, Amanda, who is twelve years old. Though Sam and Amanda's parents have just formally divorced, they have been separated for two years.

During the separation period, things appeared to run smoothly. The parents shared the parenting responsibilities and dad was lucky enough to rent a house a block away from the kids so they spent a lot of time voluntarily shuttling back and forth between both households. Both parents made the effort to communicate as everyone adjusted to the fact that daddy now slept in a different house.

When the divorce was finalized, things changed. Within a month of the divorce, Sam began refusing to visit his father. His sister, Am

est of friends and communicate openly while sharing the parenting responsibilities.

Communication and cooperation are supposed to be two-way streets, but things don't always turn out the way they should. Sadly, the majority of marriages end bitterly and it takes many years for both partners to come to terms with the marriage breakdown and stop punishing each other. Often times, however, those years of communication breakdown affect the children deeply.

It's common in single parent households, for the custodial parent to develop a deep bond with the child. In households where there are still unresolved issues between the divorced adults, the connection between custodial parent and child could, directly or indirectly, lead to conflicts with the non-custodial parent.

Let's meet Sam & Amanda

Sam is eight years old. He has an older sister, Amanda, who is twelve years old. Though Sam and Amanda's parents have just formally divorced, they have been separated for two years.

During the separation period, things appeared to run smoothly. The parents shared the parenting responsibilities and dad was lucky enough to rent a house a block away from the kids so they spent a lot of time voluntarily shuttling back and forth between both households. Both parents made the effort to communicate as everyone adjusted to the fact that daddy now slept in a different house.

When the divorce was finalized, things changed. Within a month of the divorce, Sam began refusing to visit his father. His sister, A

, however, those years of communication breakdown affect the children deeply.

It's common in single parent households, for the custodial parent to develop a deep bond with the child. In households where there are still unresolved issues between the divorced adults, the connection between custodial parent and child could, directly or indirectly, lead to conflicts with the non-custodial parent.

Let's meet Sam & Amanda

Sam is eight years old. He has an older sister, Amanda, who is twelve years old. Though Sam and Amanda's parents have just formally divorced, they have been separated for two years.

During the separation period, things appeared to run smoothly. The parents shared the parenting responsibilities and dad was lucky enough to rent a house a block away from the kids so they spent a lot of time voluntarily shuttling back and forth between both households. Both parents made the effort to communicate as everyone adjusted to the fact that daddy now slept in a different house.

When the divorce was finalized, things changed. Within a month of the divorce, Sam began refusing to visit his father. His sister, A

ustodial parent.

Let's meet Sam & Amanda

Sam is eight years old. He has an older sister, Amanda, who is twelve years old. Though Sam and Amanda's parents have just formally divorced, they have been separated for two years.

During the separation period, things appeared to run smoothly. The parents shared the parenting responsibilities and dad was lucky enough to rent a house a block away from the kids so they spent a lot of time voluntarily shuttling back and forth between both households. Both parents made the effort to communicate as everyone adjusted to the fact that daddy now slept in a different house.

When the divorce was finalized, things changed. Within a month of the divorce, Sam began refusing to visit his father. His sister, A

t a house a block away from the kids so they spent a lot of time voluntarily shuttling back and forth between both households. Both parents made the effort to communicate as everyone adjusted to the fact that daddy now slept in a different house.

When the divorce was finalized, things changed. Within a month of the divorce, Sam began refusing to visit his father. His sister, Amanda, would walk him home from school and then walk over to her father's house to spend the evening with him. Three to four nights a week, she would dine with her father - just as they had during the separation.

Amanda didn't understand why her brother didn't want to join her but she was happy to have dad all to herself and her feelings made her feel guilty when she saw Sam at school the next day.

Sam's behavior began to deteriorate. His school work began slipping and he was exhibiting increasingly aggressive behavior on the school ground and towards his sister.

The nights that Amanda was home with Sam and their mother, she would attempt to talk to Sam to see if she could coax him into visiting their father. Day after day, Sam refused. The pattern continued for a month before Amanda approached her mother with her concerns. Her mother refused to validate Amanda's concerns, even stating that it really is best if Sam "stayed away from that man - and so should you. I don't know why you go there all the time. Aren't we good enough for you?"

Amanda fled from the house crying and ran straight to her father. He listened to her as she expressed her sadness over the marriage breakdown and the loss of her best friend, her little brother. Dad listened to all her concerns and then they talked about giving Sam a bit more time to adjust to the change. "Even though we've been separated for quite some time, the divorce makes it final. There's no going back now. I know we've all wished that things would go bac