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"People" is not just the name of a magazine, it is the subject of virtually every story published today. How people use a certain product. Why they behave the way they do. And what activity they're engaged in that is charming, disarming, or alarming. It's all about the people.Most business publications tell us about people we can never identify with, even though we love to read about them. They have seemingly unlimited resources, celebrity contacts, and brilliant well-connected friends. Fun to read but with very little direct relevance to us, except for the moral, legal, and ethical dilemmas and lessons each article contains.it is. The player gets attention, gets a little more power for a little while, and is seen as someone who is in the know and on top of things. Experienced players do this in a way that is additive over time. They also take care not to overdo it. They are very good at not giving away their game.

Given the behavior, its varieties and its motivations, what does counter play look like? Listen to what the agitator has to say and then say, 'You are a trip. You can find more ways to look at

Rob hangs around when others are talking, always lingers a little after meetings, and just starts talking when people are working. His game is to get people talking whether they want to talk or not.

Once people are talking, he jumps in or says something like, 'I could not help hearing what you were talking about.' Of course, he could help it. He made a point to hear. Nonetheless, he now expresses his opinion. Whatever the topic, he has an opinion.

His opinion is that things are a mess. He thinks things should be handled better. In fact, the company is going to the dogs. Why? Everyone - except him - is incompetent and does not know what he/she is doing. Adding, 'I have said this before but….' is a master touch.

Here is the key to the technique. If someone asks Rob for his opinion on something, he says, 'I have some strong opinions on this, but I want to hear your ideas first.' Notice he is clear about his having opinions - more than one - on the topic. No matter what the other person says, Rob is ready. He has managed to move back to a position from which to react to what others are saying. He is not one to let anyone get him out of position.

Management Tips:

Understanding the motivations of agitators is not too difficult if you look at their behavior and then ask yourself why they are behaving that way. More to the point, what do they get out of it? Their motivations are in the payoff or what they get.

The agitator will say anything no matter who gets hurt or feels badly. What does the player get? He/she gets a cheap moment in the spotlight, even if it is at the expense of a co-worker. Just keep in mind that the player will say anything about anyone, including you.

Agitators also get their kicks from complaining. They are again in the spotlight. Of course, there is always a little more power in that position.

The player makes things seem bad, people seem incompetent, and everything appears worse than it is. The player gets attention, gets a little more power for a little while, and is seen as someone who is in the know and on top of things. Experienced players do this in a way that is additive over time. They also take care not to overdo it. They are very good at not giving away their game.

Given the behavior, its varieties and its motivations, what does counter play look like? Listen to what the agitator has to say and then say, 'You are a trip. You can find more ways to look at t

a mess. He thinks things should be handled better. In fact, the company is going to the dogs. Why? Everyone - except him - is incompetent and does not know what he/she is doing. Adding, 'I have said this before but….' is a master touch.

Here is the key to the technique. If someone asks Rob for his opinion on something, he says, 'I have some strong opinions on this, but I want to hear your ideas first.' Notice he is clear about his having opinions - more than one - on the topic. No matter what the other person says, Rob is ready. He has managed to move back to a position from which to react to what others are saying. He is not one to let anyone get him out of position.

Management Tips:

Understanding the motivations of agitators is not too difficult if you look at their behavior and then ask yourself why they are behaving that way. More to the point, what do they get out of it? Their motivations are in the payoff or what they get.

The agitator will say anything no matter who gets hurt or feels badly. What does the player get? He/she gets a cheap moment in the spotlight, even if it is at the expense of a co-worker. Just keep in mind that the player will say anything about anyone, including you.

Agitators also get their kicks from complaining. They are again in the spotlight. Of course, there is always a little more power in that position.

The player makes things seem bad, people seem incompetent, and everything appears worse than it is. The player gets attention, gets a little more power for a little while, and is seen as someone who is in the know and on top of things. Experienced players do this in a way that is additive over time. They also take care not to overdo it. They are very good at not giving away their game.

Given the behavior, its varieties and its motivations, what does counter play look like? Listen to what the agitator has to say and then say, 'You are a trip. You can find more ways to look at

er what the other person says, Rob is ready. He has managed to move back to a position from which to react to what others are saying. He is not one to let anyone get him out of position.

Management Tips:

Understanding the motivations of agitators is not too difficult if you look at their behavior and then ask yourself why they are behaving that way. More to the point, what do they get out of it? Their motivations are in the payoff or what they get.

The agitator will say anything no matter who gets hurt or feels badly. What does the player get? He/she gets a cheap moment in the spotlight, even if it is at the expense of a co-worker. Just keep in mind that the player will say anything about anyone, including you.

Agitators also get their kicks from complaining. They are again in the spotlight. Of course, there is always a little more power in that position.

The player makes things seem bad, people seem incompetent, and everything appears worse than it is. The player gets attention, gets a little more power for a little while, and is seen as someone who is in the know and on top of things. Experienced players do this in a way that is additive over time. They also take care not to overdo it. They are very good at not giving away their game.

Given the behavior, its varieties and its motivations, what does counter play look like? Listen to what the agitator has to say and then say, 'You are a trip. You can find more ways to look at

ything no matter who gets hurt or feels badly. What does the player get? He/she gets a cheap moment in the spotlight, even if it is at the expense of a co-worker. Just keep in mind that the player will say anything about anyone, including you.

Agitators also get their kicks from complaining. They are again in the spotlight. Of course, there is always a little more power in that position.

The player makes things seem bad, people seem incompetent, and everything appears worse than it is. The player gets attention, gets a little more power for a little while, and is seen as someone who is in the know and on top of things. Experienced players do this in a way that is additive over time. They also take care not to overdo it. They are very good at not giving away their game.

Given the behavior, its varieties and its motivations, what does counter play look like? Listen to what the agitator has to say and then say, 'You are a trip. You can find more ways to look at

it is. The player gets attention, gets a little more power for a little while, and is seen as someone who is in the know and on top of things. Experienced players do this in a way that is additive over time. They also take care not to overdo it. They are very good at not giving away their game.

Given the behavior, its varieties and its motivations, what does counter play look like? Listen to what the agitator has to say and then say, 'You are a trip. You can find more ways to look at things negatively than anyone I know.' The strategy is to call the player on the behavior and make it clear that you have no interest in what he/she says. There is no power reinforcement for the behavior.

In another example, a player is agitating. She says something negative about someone. The classy response is, 'I am surprised to hear you say that. I do not think it is true.' The player will almost always press on with, 'It is true! I….' She goes on to say some more negative things.

Your response is, 'You probably would describe the tooth fairy as a thief.' Now comes the real trick. No matter what the player says next, do not respond. The game is over.

As with most people who drive you up the wall, the trick to counter play with agitators is to do what needs to be done and then quit. Players of any type or variety can only play with people who will play. For agitators, just be sure they get minimal attention and no additional power or status from you. Quietly and calmly call them on their behavior and then let it go. When others do not play, the game gradually stops.

Also when agitating gets started in a group, it tends to be contagious. The play is hard to resist. People who just enjoy small talk - almost always about other people who are not there - inadvertently pick up the behavior. The play becomes a way to get status and attention in the group. It works for the agitator so why not for others?

Given the contagion virility of the game, it is important to stop it as quickly and completely as possible.

Locate the most vocal agitator and then do two things. First, privately ask him to tell you what problems he sees or what concerns he has. If necessary, candidly share with him what you have learned he is saying or complaining about. Once the issues are on the table, you and he can go into a problem solving mode.

Next, and this is the key, tell him that his agitating behavior is unacceptable. Let him know