ball (soccer): let's say the playmaker of the game managed to dribble the ball through a series of players from the opposite team and finally reaches the opposite goal, aims and shoots. The point blank shot which is a sure 100% goal is miraculously saved by the opposite team goalkeeper! It is dubbed as the best save of the century!

Now, let us see what happens to the playmaker, who has failed to score the goal. Would he sulk and complain to everybody that the goalkeeper did not allow him to score? Would he decide to NEVER try again because the goalkeeper is stubborn and would not allow him to score? Would he walk up to the goalkeeper and yell at him for not allowing him to score? Would he question the goalkeeper on why he is so stubborn that he did not allow his shot through?!!

Sounds very silly, doesn't it? In reality, what naturally happens is, the playmaker may just get frustrated for not scoring: he may slump on his knees, he may bite his teeth in anger, get mad with himself for missing the opportunity, or he may ignorantly blame h

I conducted one of my corporate workshops this morning, the title of the workshop was "Goal Setting and Achieving". There was one interesting question from the group that reflects a general problem faced by many employees all over the world, which is, "How to get a person to change and accept new ideas or approach, especially the boss or a superior? The goal here is, of course, to further improve the company. Sometimes it frustrates when good ideas are given but yet they are not really considered. Although it happens only once in a while, it does affect the mind and de-motivates."

I smiled and promised an answer, but before that I requested that they keep an open mind as they may find the answer shocking or difficult to digest. They listened attentively. First and foremost a person cannot make another person change, unless the other person WANTS to change, or ALLOWS change to come over him!

As such, if you are going to spend your time thinking on how to make your boss or superior change or anyone else for the fact, then I suggest you keep some aspirins with you as it is going to frustrate you, drive you nuts and eventually give you a severe headache. The interesting truth is, as you are going through this mental torture, your superior or boss on the other end may not even be aware that you want him or her to change; and he or she continues to lead life happily as usual!

If you wish to change the world around you then you have to start with yourself first. As the wise man says, "The world within reflects the world without!". What does it actually mean, "If you want the world to change then start with yourself first"? WHAT ACTUALLY MUST YOU DO? As my participants looked at me intently, I continued.

First, as per the Law of Vibration and Attraction, you will only attract to you those who are in tune with your own thoughts who produce the similar vibrations. Vibrations alike attract people alike!

In that case, if you find your superior stubborn and not acceptable to the ideas presented, then probably you are stubborn too in some other areas of your own life with regards to people around you! Please read again the last statement! Read it! DO NOT ignore it! Ponder over it, seriously, no matter how unacceptable it is to you!

You could be stubborn in other areas of your life, for example, with your spouse, kids, relatives, parents, siblings, friends etc. For an example, let's say your wife has been telling you to kick off your smoking habit for a long time since she feels it is a threat to your health. But you may have been ignoring it, or you may have been too stubborn to go for a proper medical checkup as advised by your doctor.

Or, you may be too stubborn to seek apology for your mistake that caused serious heart ache to a friend, or you could be too stubborn to settle an old feud with a relative even though he or she is prepared to, or you may be ignoring fantastic ideas coming your way to help improve your life. It could be anything! BUT only YOU know what it is!

The vibration that you are sending out which has the attitude "STUBBORN" subtly interwoven in it, attracts to you the similar type of people, for an example your superior. As you begin to correct yourself, you will eventually reduce the negative vibration (stubborn). This is the first step in allowing changes to take place in your life.

There are some people who, personally believing that their ideas are perfect, expect them to be totally accepted when presented to their superior. However, if the superior finds a fault in the idea and shoots it down, they become frustrated and sulk. They then waste their time complaining about the superior. In the future, remembering the incident, they have difficulty putting their best foot forward to come up with ideas when the superior requires them to.

There are many serious flaws in the thinking patterns of this type of people. It can cause devastating effects to the organization. Can you imagine if an organization becomes dearth of new ideas? How then to stay ahead of competition?

I noticed my participants were listening attentively; I gave two examples to drive in the point I was making. The first was about football (soccer): let's say the playmaker of the game managed to dribble the ball through a series of players from the opposite team and finally reaches the opposite goal, aims and shoots. The point blank shot which is a sure 100% goal is miraculously saved by the opposite team goalkeeper! It is dubbed as the best save of the century!

Now, let us see what happens to the playmaker, who has failed to score the goal. Would he sulk and complain to everybody that the goalkeeper did not allow him to score? Would he decide to NEVER try again because the goalkeeper is stubborn and would not allow him to score? Would he walk up to the goalkeeper and yell at him for not allowing him to score? Would he question the goalkeeper on why he is so stubborn that he did not allow his shot through?!!

Sounds very silly, doesn't it? In reality, what naturally happens is, the playmaker may just get frustrated for not scoring: he may slump on his knees, he may bite his teeth in anger, get mad with himself for missing the opportunity, or he may ignorantly blame hi

eep some aspirins with you as it is going to frustrate you, drive you nuts and eventually give you a severe headache. The interesting truth is, as you are going through this mental torture, your superior or boss on the other end may not even be aware that you want him or her to change; and he or she continues to lead life happily as usual!

If you wish to change the world around you then you have to start with yourself first. As the wise man says, "The world within reflects the world without!". What does it actually mean, "If you want the world to change then start with yourself first"? WHAT ACTUALLY MUST YOU DO? As my participants looked at me intently, I continued.

First, as per the Law of Vibration and Attraction, you will only attract to you those who are in tune with your own thoughts who produce the similar vibrations. Vibrations alike attract people alike!

In that case, if you find your superior stubborn and not acceptable to the ideas presented, then probably you are stubborn too in some other areas of your own life with regards to people around you! Please read again the last statement! Read it! DO NOT ignore it! Ponder over it, seriously, no matter how unacceptable it is to you!

You could be stubborn in other areas of your life, for example, with your spouse, kids, relatives, parents, siblings, friends etc. For an example, let's say your wife has been telling you to kick off your smoking habit for a long time since she feels it is a threat to your health. But you may have been ignoring it, or you may have been too stubborn to go for a proper medical checkup as advised by your doctor.

Or, you may be too stubborn to seek apology for your mistake that caused serious heart ache to a friend, or you could be too stubborn to settle an old feud with a relative even though he or she is prepared to, or you may be ignoring fantastic ideas coming your way to help improve your life. It could be anything! BUT only YOU know what it is!

The vibration that you are sending out which has the attitude "STUBBORN" subtly interwoven in it, attracts to you the similar type of people, for an example your superior. As you begin to correct yourself, you will eventually reduce the negative vibration (stubborn). This is the first step in allowing changes to take place in your life.

There are some people who, personally believing that their ideas are perfect, expect them to be totally accepted when presented to their superior. However, if the superior finds a fault in the idea and shoots it down, they become frustrated and sulk. They then waste their time complaining about the superior. In the future, remembering the incident, they have difficulty putting their best foot forward to come up with ideas when the superior requires them to.

There are many serious flaws in the thinking patterns of this type of people. It can cause devastating effects to the organization. Can you imagine if an organization becomes dearth of new ideas? How then to stay ahead of competition?

I noticed my participants were listening attentively; I gave two examples to drive in the point I was making. The first was about football (soccer): let's say the playmaker of the game managed to dribble the ball through a series of players from the opposite team and finally reaches the opposite goal, aims and shoots. The point blank shot which is a sure 100% goal is miraculously saved by the opposite team goalkeeper! It is dubbed as the best save of the century!

Now, let us see what happens to the playmaker, who has failed to score the goal. Would he sulk and complain to everybody that the goalkeeper did not allow him to score? Would he decide to NEVER try again because the goalkeeper is stubborn and would not allow him to score? Would he walk up to the goalkeeper and yell at him for not allowing him to score? Would he question the goalkeeper on why he is so stubborn that he did not allow his shot through?!!

Sounds very silly, doesn't it? In reality, what naturally happens is, the playmaker may just get frustrated for not scoring: he may slump on his knees, he may bite his teeth in anger, get mad with himself for missing the opportunity, or he may ignorantly blame h

egards to people around you! Please read again the last statement! Read it! DO NOT ignore it! Ponder over it, seriously, no matter how unacceptable it is to you!

You could be stubborn in other areas of your life, for example, with your spouse, kids, relatives, parents, siblings, friends etc. For an example, let's say your wife has been telling you to kick off your smoking habit for a long time since she feels it is a threat to your health. But you may have been ignoring it, or you may have been too stubborn to go for a proper medical checkup as advised by your doctor.

Or, you may be too stubborn to seek apology for your mistake that caused serious heart ache to a friend, or you could be too stubborn to settle an old feud with a relative even though he or she is prepared to, or you may be ignoring fantastic ideas coming your way to help improve your life. It could be anything! BUT only YOU know what it is!

The vibration that you are sending out which has the attitude "STUBBORN" subtly interwoven in it, attracts to you the similar type of people, for an example your superior. As you begin to correct yourself, you will eventually reduce the negative vibration (stubborn). This is the first step in allowing changes to take place in your life.

There are some people who, personally believing that their ideas are perfect, expect them to be totally accepted when presented to their superior. However, if the superior finds a fault in the idea and shoots it down, they become frustrated and sulk. They then waste their time complaining about the superior. In the future, remembering the incident, they have difficulty putting their best foot forward to come up with ideas when the superior requires them to.

There are many serious flaws in the thinking patterns of this type of people. It can cause devastating effects to the organization. Can you imagine if an organization becomes dearth of new ideas? How then to stay ahead of competition?

I noticed my participants were listening attentively; I gave two examples to drive in the point I was making. The first was about football (soccer): let's say the playmaker of the game managed to dribble the ball through a series of players from the opposite team and finally reaches the opposite goal, aims and shoots. The point blank shot which is a sure 100% goal is miraculously saved by the opposite team goalkeeper! It is dubbed as the best save of the century!

Now, let us see what happens to the playmaker, who has failed to score the goal. Would he sulk and complain to everybody that the goalkeeper did not allow him to score? Would he decide to NEVER try again because the goalkeeper is stubborn and would not allow him to score? Would he walk up to the goalkeeper and yell at him for not allowing him to score? Would he question the goalkeeper on why he is so stubborn that he did not allow his shot through?!!

Sounds very silly, doesn't it? In reality, what naturally happens is, the playmaker may just get frustrated for not scoring: he may slump on his knees, he may bite his teeth in anger, get mad with himself for missing the opportunity, or he may ignorantly blame h

type of people, for an example your superior. As you begin to correct yourself, you will eventually reduce the negative vibration (stubborn). This is the first step in allowing changes to take place in your life.

There are some people who, personally believing that their ideas are perfect, expect them to be totally accepted when presented to their superior. However, if the superior finds a fault in the idea and shoots it down, they become frustrated and sulk. They then waste their time complaining about the superior. In the future, remembering the incident, they have difficulty putting their best foot forward to come up with ideas when the superior requires them to.

There are many serious flaws in the thinking patterns of this type of people. It can cause devastating effects to the organization. Can you imagine if an organization becomes dearth of new ideas? How then to stay ahead of competition?

I noticed my participants were listening attentively; I gave two examples to drive in the point I was making. The first was about football (soccer): let's say the playmaker of the game managed to dribble the ball through a series of players from the opposite team and finally reaches the opposite goal, aims and shoots. The point blank shot which is a sure 100% goal is miraculously saved by the opposite team goalkeeper! It is dubbed as the best save of the century!

Now, let us see what happens to the playmaker, who has failed to score the goal. Would he sulk and complain to everybody that the goalkeeper did not allow him to score? Would he decide to NEVER try again because the goalkeeper is stubborn and would not allow him to score? Would he walk up to the goalkeeper and yell at him for not allowing him to score? Would he question the goalkeeper on why he is so stubborn that he did not allow his shot through?!!

Sounds very silly, doesn't it? In reality, what naturally happens is, the playmaker may just get frustrated for not scoring: he may slump on his knees, he may bite his teeth in anger, get mad with himself for missing the opportunity, or he may ignorantly blame h

ball (soccer): let's say the playmaker of the game managed to dribble the ball through a series of players from the opposite team and finally reaches the opposite goal, aims and shoots. The point blank shot which is a sure 100% goal is miraculously saved by the opposite team goalkeeper! It is dubbed as the best save of the century!

Now, let us see what happens to the playmaker, who has failed to score the goal. Would he sulk and complain to everybody that the goalkeeper did not allow him to score? Would he decide to NEVER try again because the goalkeeper is stubborn and would not allow him to score? Would he walk up to the goalkeeper and yell at him for not allowing him to score? Would he question the goalkeeper on why he is so stubborn that he did not allow his shot through?!!

Sounds very silly, doesn't it? In reality, what naturally happens is, the playmaker may just get frustrated for not scoring: he may slump on his knees, he may bite his teeth in anger, get mad with himself for missing the opportunity, or he may ignorantly blame his so-called 'luck', but he definitely would not find fault in the goalkeeper! One thing is for sure, in no time, he would recollect himself, continue to play his role as a football player, and be more determined to score the next time.

I observed that my participants were in deep thought. I proceeded to give them another example, my own story. For more than ten years now, I have strived to do my best to spread the knowledge and insights on the workings of Laws of Nature, the basic seven laws, through my training programs and books.

Some speak positively of my efforts, and of course there are those who are highly critical of my work. I also know of some who condemn me either directly or indirectly for reasons only known to them. Does this frustrate me? The truth is at times it does, especially during the early days. Here I am, trying to do my small bit in helping to make the world a better place, and yet I get hammered for even taking the effort. Yes, at times it frustrates me, especially when people tell me that the insights and ideas that I shared with them do not work, without even them giving it a try by putting into practice. Some of these people even discourage others from trying as well.

Once, many years ago while I was giving some ideas to a participant to solve his financial woes, suddenly another participant simply walked up to me and said that he agreed with all the stuff that I had shared, especially Nature's laws. I felt good hearing that and the other participant I was talking to also agreed with him.

However, in the same breath, he said that he refused to put into practice the ideas because they came from someone other than his religion, and that would be me! Now, how would you feel if someone tells you that straight on the face? I was flabbergasted! After saying that, he just walked away and the other person who was listening to me also became discouraged and followed him!

However, all these do not stop me; frustrated once in a while, "yes", but to quit or discouraged is definitely a big "NO"! Rather than wasting time finding fault in others, I just get myself back into the game, listen to the feedback objectively and do my best to improve my material, myself, and make better effort to deliver it in the best possible manner.

At this point, I asked my participants, "Why do you think I continue to give my best in whatever I do?"

The responses I received from my participants varied: "Because you love doing what you do", "You do not give a damn to those critics", "It is your passion", etc. As they went on with their opinions, I said they were right to a certain extent, but there was one important reason missing. After pondering for a while, they gave up. I smiled and proceeded to give the answer.

"DUTY", I wrote on the whiteboard. My participants were now looking at me, puzzled. The companies and individuals who hire my services whether for training programs, seminars, or personal coaching are expecting ONLY the best from me. As such, it is my duty to give my very best for the money they are paying.

Part of the money I receive for my services I use to clothe and feed my family. If I slack in my services, Law of Cause and Effect would ensure that the happiness, health and wealth of my family would also slack. What I mean by slacking in my services is rather than focusing on doing my work better, I spend time finding fault and criticizing others!

Accordingly, Nature would slack in other areas of my life. Why not, I have received money but did not provide the best for it. Nature would then balance it out through Law of Cause and Effect. Normally, it would affect the happiness, health and then followed by wealth.

For example, I may have serious misunderstanding with my family that cause unhappiness, or I may fall ill and suffer pain, or my car engine may overheat and breakdown and I would need to fork out a large amount of money to get it repaired, etc. In its own way, Nature would ensure a balance is established!

As such, it is absolutely important that we always remember our DUTY, and carry it out accordingly. If we are paid for something, then make sure that the job is done the best possible w