r the big picture. You need to remind yourself of what is it that you’re really trying to achieve. That way, when you do meet an obstacle, it’s not going to slow you down. You’ll be focusing on where you want to go and not the obstacle. You’ll be watching how others do it and then figuring out how you can do it too. You’ll also be far more motivated to take action when ideas and people appear to help you.

Only concentrating on not failing means

“I’m going to fall.”

He must have been about 10 years old and obviously terrified of heights. Yet, somehow he’d managed to climb up the ladder of the trapeze at this kid’s circus camp.

You could see the sweat on his face and he kept rubbing his hands on his shorts.

“Focus on reaching for the bar,” his instructor barked. “Focus on your goal.”

The kid looked nervously down. It was definitely a long way down.

“Look at the bar,” came the instructions.

“I can’t. I’ll fall. I’ll get hurt,” was the child’s answer.

This went on for about 20 minutes until fear finally won out and they let the kid climb back down the ladder without actually trying the trapeze. You could see the sheer relief on his face as his feet safely touched the ground again.

His sister was next. You could tell just by the way she confidently climbed the ladder that she had a reputation of being a sort of daredevil.

I don’t think she once looked down because the second she reached the platform she had her eyes locked on that bar.

“Ready? Go,” the instructor called and she neatly leaned forward, grabbed the bar and swung out over the net below. You could see she totally loved every minute of it.

Watching this made me realize that sometimes it’s simply how you view a situation that can mean the difference between success and failure.

These two kids were both trying to do the same thing but they ended up having very different experiences and very different results. One hated it and the other loved it. One failed and the other was successful. Yet really the only difference was that one couldn't see past the possibility of falling and the other could only see her desired goal.

It reminded me that sometimes you just need to take a step back and remember the big picture. You need to remind yourself of what is it that you’re really trying to achieve. That way, when you do meet an obstacle, it’s not going to slow you down. You’ll be focusing on where you want to go and not the obstacle. You’ll be watching how others do it and then figuring out how you can do it too. You’ll also be far more motivated to take action when ideas and people appear to help you.

Only concentrating on not failing means

bar,” came the instructions.

“I can’t. I’ll fall. I’ll get hurt,” was the child’s answer.

This went on for about 20 minutes until fear finally won out and they let the kid climb back down the ladder without actually trying the trapeze. You could see the sheer relief on his face as his feet safely touched the ground again.

His sister was next. You could tell just by the way she confidently climbed the ladder that she had a reputation of being a sort of daredevil.

I don’t think she once looked down because the second she reached the platform she had her eyes locked on that bar.

“Ready? Go,” the instructor called and she neatly leaned forward, grabbed the bar and swung out over the net below. You could see she totally loved every minute of it.

Watching this made me realize that sometimes it’s simply how you view a situation that can mean the difference between success and failure.

These two kids were both trying to do the same thing but they ended up having very different experiences and very different results. One hated it and the other loved it. One failed and the other was successful. Yet really the only difference was that one couldn't see past the possibility of falling and the other could only see her desired goal.

It reminded me that sometimes you just need to take a step back and remember the big picture. You need to remind yourself of what is it that you’re really trying to achieve. That way, when you do meet an obstacle, it’s not going to slow you down. You’ll be focusing on where you want to go and not the obstacle. You’ll be watching how others do it and then figuring out how you can do it too. You’ll also be far more motivated to take action when ideas and people appear to help you.

Only concentrating on not failing means

n of being a sort of daredevil.

I don’t think she once looked down because the second she reached the platform she had her eyes locked on that bar.

“Ready? Go,” the instructor called and she neatly leaned forward, grabbed the bar and swung out over the net below. You could see she totally loved every minute of it.

Watching this made me realize that sometimes it’s simply how you view a situation that can mean the difference between success and failure.

These two kids were both trying to do the same thing but they ended up having very different experiences and very different results. One hated it and the other loved it. One failed and the other was successful. Yet really the only difference was that one couldn't see past the possibility of falling and the other could only see her desired goal.

It reminded me that sometimes you just need to take a step back and remember the big picture. You need to remind yourself of what is it that you’re really trying to achieve. That way, when you do meet an obstacle, it’s not going to slow you down. You’ll be focusing on where you want to go and not the obstacle. You’ll be watching how others do it and then figuring out how you can do it too. You’ll also be far more motivated to take action when ideas and people appear to help you.

Only concentrating on not failing means

ccess and failure.

These two kids were both trying to do the same thing but they ended up having very different experiences and very different results. One hated it and the other loved it. One failed and the other was successful. Yet really the only difference was that one couldn't see past the possibility of falling and the other could only see her desired goal.

It reminded me that sometimes you just need to take a step back and remember the big picture. You need to remind yourself of what is it that you’re really trying to achieve. That way, when you do meet an obstacle, it’s not going to slow you down. You’ll be focusing on where you want to go and not the obstacle. You’ll be watching how others do it and then figuring out how you can do it too. You’ll also be far more motivated to take action when ideas and people appear to help you.

Only concentrating on not failing means

r the big picture. You need to remind yourself of what is it that you’re really trying to achieve. That way, when you do meet an obstacle, it’s not going to slow you down. You’ll be focusing on where you want to go and not the obstacle. You’ll be watching how others do it and then figuring out how you can do it too. You’ll also be far more motivated to take action when ideas and people appear to help you.

Only concentrating on not failing means you’re getting in your own way of success. You end up focusing on the wrong thing. As long as you’re focused on what you don’t want, you’re not seeing what you need to do in order to be successful.

So, the next time you’re struggling with your goals, take the time to take a step back and ask yourself:

- What am I focusing on and what do I really want?

You may be surprised by what’s really consuming your thoughts.

Change your focus and you can completely change the situation. You’ll be amazed at how well this works. You can finally achieve success because you've discovered how to get out of your own way.

So, what are you focusing on?