m He would then have the employee take his fish from the smaller bowl and feed it to a piranha in the second fish tank. This tactic held much more emotional effect than writing up the employee for their mistake. It also served Sam’s ultimate need for control over others.

The Deceptive Bully: The little children’s rhyme that goes “liar, liar, pants on fire” comes to mind here. Promises of raises, promotions, vacations, time off with family are all made in ord

Prison. Is that what your job feels like every day? If so, you are not alone. Many people go to work every day feeling like they are turning themselves into the authorities. They have to ask themselves if the pain and anguish of facing another week, day or even hour is worth the money. Do they have a choice?

When people work together, each with their own style, personality, temperament, ideas and creativity, there will always be differences of opinion. The good thing about this is that these differences start dialog where hopefully everyone concerned can come to an agreement and move forward. The problems arise when the dialog turns into a monolog and is controlled by one person in a way that is de-energizing, belittling, harassing, embarrassing, and unproductive to the organization.

Enter the bully. They may be hard to recognize in the beginning because they are usually nice and helpful up front. During the time of their politeness, they are sizing up who their next target will be.

The Bully Alligator: This is the meanest of all the bullies and he/she doesn’t care who knows it. As a matter of fact, he prefers others to know. This person purposely uses intimidation and silent threats to control his staff. He/she intentionally inflicts pain on others in order to control them, degrade them or to undermine their confidence.

Sam was a senior manager of a department in a large corporation. When he hired his staff he would bring each one into his office where he kept two fish tanks. He had the employee pick out the fish they thought closely fit their personality and it was put into a smaller fish bowl for the person to take to their desk. Sam even provided the food for the fish. However, when that employee did something that Sam disapproved of, he would call them into his office and tell them to bring their fish bowl with them He would then have the employee take his fish from the smaller bowl and feed it to a piranha in the second fish tank. This tactic held much more emotional effect than writing up the employee for their mistake. It also served Sam’s ultimate need for control over others.

The Deceptive Bully: The little children’s rhyme that goes “liar, liar, pants on fire” comes to mind here. Promises of raises, promotions, vacations, time off with family are all made in orde

good thing about this is that these differences start dialog where hopefully everyone concerned can come to an agreement and move forward. The problems arise when the dialog turns into a monolog and is controlled by one person in a way that is de-energizing, belittling, harassing, embarrassing, and unproductive to the organization.

Enter the bully. They may be hard to recognize in the beginning because they are usually nice and helpful up front. During the time of their politeness, they are sizing up who their next target will be.

The Bully Alligator: This is the meanest of all the bullies and he/she doesn’t care who knows it. As a matter of fact, he prefers others to know. This person purposely uses intimidation and silent threats to control his staff. He/she intentionally inflicts pain on others in order to control them, degrade them or to undermine their confidence.

Sam was a senior manager of a department in a large corporation. When he hired his staff he would bring each one into his office where he kept two fish tanks. He had the employee pick out the fish they thought closely fit their personality and it was put into a smaller fish bowl for the person to take to their desk. Sam even provided the food for the fish. However, when that employee did something that Sam disapproved of, he would call them into his office and tell them to bring their fish bowl with them He would then have the employee take his fish from the smaller bowl and feed it to a piranha in the second fish tank. This tactic held much more emotional effect than writing up the employee for their mistake. It also served Sam’s ultimate need for control over others.

The Deceptive Bully: The little children’s rhyme that goes “liar, liar, pants on fire” comes to mind here. Promises of raises, promotions, vacations, time off with family are all made in ord

e of their politeness, they are sizing up who their next target will be.

The Bully Alligator: This is the meanest of all the bullies and he/she doesn’t care who knows it. As a matter of fact, he prefers others to know. This person purposely uses intimidation and silent threats to control his staff. He/she intentionally inflicts pain on others in order to control them, degrade them or to undermine their confidence.

Sam was a senior manager of a department in a large corporation. When he hired his staff he would bring each one into his office where he kept two fish tanks. He had the employee pick out the fish they thought closely fit their personality and it was put into a smaller fish bowl for the person to take to their desk. Sam even provided the food for the fish. However, when that employee did something that Sam disapproved of, he would call them into his office and tell them to bring their fish bowl with them He would then have the employee take his fish from the smaller bowl and feed it to a piranha in the second fish tank. This tactic held much more emotional effect than writing up the employee for their mistake. It also served Sam’s ultimate need for control over others.

The Deceptive Bully: The little children’s rhyme that goes “liar, liar, pants on fire” comes to mind here. Promises of raises, promotions, vacations, time off with family are all made in ord

t in a large corporation. When he hired his staff he would bring each one into his office where he kept two fish tanks. He had the employee pick out the fish they thought closely fit their personality and it was put into a smaller fish bowl for the person to take to their desk. Sam even provided the food for the fish. However, when that employee did something that Sam disapproved of, he would call them into his office and tell them to bring their fish bowl with them He would then have the employee take his fish from the smaller bowl and feed it to a piranha in the second fish tank. This tactic held much more emotional effect than writing up the employee for their mistake. It also served Sam’s ultimate need for control over others.

The Deceptive Bully: The little children’s rhyme that goes “liar, liar, pants on fire” comes to mind here. Promises of raises, promotions, vacations, time off with family are all made in ord

m He would then have the employee take his fish from the smaller bowl and feed it to a piranha in the second fish tank. This tactic held much more emotional effect than writing up the employee for their mistake. It also served Sam’s ultimate need for control over others.

The Deceptive Bully: The little children’s rhyme that goes “liar, liar, pants on fire” comes to mind here. Promises of raises, promotions, vacations, time off with family are all made in order for you to have something to look forward to and to keep you focused on doing more and more for your boss. The time comes for your vacation and all the arrangements have been made months in advance, including permission to have the time off, and you’re told that now is not a good time for you to leave because there is too much work to be done. Or your review is coming up and you’ve been promised a promotion with a raise. The review takes place, but the raise and promotion don’t. This behavior is repeated and repeated. Slowly all the air is deflated from your body and your energy is drained as each promise is broken. This type of behavior devalues ones worth and abilities in the long run.

Tom worked for a small trucking firm in Northern California. One night while he was working over time and was loading heavy equipment, his boss called him on his cell phone. They talked for 45 minutes and during that conversation his boss told him he was going to increase his pay by $2/hour. Tom trusted this would take place. There was no place on his pay stub that indicated how much per hour he was making, but as I said, Tom trusted his boss. Four years later, when something else in his paycheck caught his eye, he went to the payroll clerk to ask a question. That’s when he discovered that the boss had only raised his pay by $1/hour. Now, over a four year period, that amounted to a substantial amount of money. But more importantly, the trust Tom had in his bosses’ word was destroyed and soon after he left the company after 12 years.

The Prime Time Bully: This is the person who, for either his goals or the company’s goals, draws his employees into an intense workload that is unhealthy and unbalanced both at work and at home. They get seduced into the leader’s agenda and hooked on an unsustainable workload. When this person is either transferred, fail